After being divorced for 19 yrs I remarried. I will soon be married 2 yrs and I thought things were ok. When I logged on to the home computer - My husband had failed to sign out of his messenger. The messenger then displays his mail content. At this point I noticed several emails from different Single sites and porn sites. This just floored me - so I started trying to find him on the web sites and he has himself listed as single along with the type of person he is looking for. Where do I stand in a case like this ? Would this be considered cheating or adultery?