Cheating or Adultery

**Carolyn** · 04-12-2006, 05:07 AM

After being divorced for 19 yrs I remarried. I will soon be married 2 yrs and I thought things were ok. When I logged on to the home computer - My husband had failed to sign out of his messenger. The messenger then displays his mail content. At this point I noticed several emails from different Single sites and porn sites. This just floored me - so I started trying to find him on the web sites and he has himself listed as single along with the type of person he is looking for. Where do I stand in a case like this ? Would this be considered cheating or adultery?

**Mr. Knowitall** · 04-15-2006, 03:20 AM

It seems to be evidence that he is "looking", but doesn't of itself prove that he has ever made a connection.

**manman_8** · 12-25-2006, 11:41 AM

Are you asking from a legal perspective? Because in a divorce it doesn't matter...and if your asking from an emotional perspective, only you know where the line is.

panther10758 · 12-25-2006, 12:03 PM

Most states have no fault divroces now. Legally proving adultry based on your mate signing up for a singles site proves nothing! It does show that your marriage has "issues" and I feel its tiem to confront him in order to save or end marriage.

**cissycicle** · 12-25-2006, 12:41 PM

Quoting panther10758

Most states have no fault divroces now. Legally proving adultry based on your mate signing up for a singles site proves nothing! It does show that your marriage has "issues" and I feel its tiem to confront him in order to save or end marriage.

Hey Panth, you're right about the issue of no fault divorce, however, fault does come into play with the property settlement. If there is fault on one of the spouses, the bad boy loses. One of my friends (not me, of course!) obtained a no fault divorce but because my former spouse, oops, the former spouse of my friend, was a known dispicable, lousy, dishonest, lying cheater, the bad boy received well less than 50% of the property. Yes, boo hoo, waa waa call the waambulance and cart that dirty rotten low down crumb bum outta here!!! I speak of Michigan divorce proceedings. Other states may treat this differently.
So, there you have it. Naughty boyz are treated as such when the adulterous, money grubbing oinker is faced with the property settlement phase of a "no fault divorce".