Biological Dad Involvement

**gctsad** · 09-19-2009, 10:17 PM

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Washington/Oregon

Biological lives in Oregon, I live in Washington, my son was born in Oregon.
The biological of my son, (my son now 14) has known about my son since I was pregnant, talked to him about my son again when my son was 1 year old to let him know he was his AGAIN! Lived 2 houses down from where the biologicals dad lived and he was over there all the time, moved from there to Washington when my son was 4 and 1/2 years old.
I let my son know about his biological when he was 11 because I felt it his right to know (he has had my husband in his life since he was 2 and 1/2). My son has met his two sisters, one of which is 1 year older than my son and her dad raised her but not my son. My son wants nothing to do with him as he has a great dad that loves him alot (my husband and father of my other 3 children) also he figured out that he raised his older sister and not him, he figured this out on his own, he is 14 and has a brain that can figure stuff like this out all on his own, and his biological blames me and calls me bad names and blames me for him not being involved ( I am not used to this kind of behavior or name slinging), saying I should have pushed him to be in my sons life, and my sons older sister says his biological tells everyone I am a "B" and I wont let him see his son that HE JUST FOUND OUT HE HAD, not true, infact when I first talked to him to tell him I was telling my son he said that his wife already knew that he told her he had a son and this would come up sometime. My sons older sister also told us that her dad (my sons biological) drinks hard alcohol and is mean to everyone, he also gets into fights, my family is peaceful and there is not 'mental illness'

in my family or any of this behavior, my son is disturbed by this and other things his sister has told him, to the point of not wanting to meet him. I have told his biological that when my son wants to meet him that he can and I wont interfere, but I wont push my son into meeting him, like I didn't push him into being in my sons life.
I know this is long....... I want to know if there is a paternity test will child support be inevitable, and will a parenting plan follow and if so will my son HAVE TO see him, seeing he is 14 years old and doesn't have any desire to meet him.

Let me know if I need to clarify anything.
Thanks for any help on this issue.