I live in Minnesota, but was divorced in Colorado. For fourteen years, I've recieved my portion (awarded in divorce decree) of my ex husband's military retirement pay. This month,nothing came. I found out he has managed to convert all his retirment pay to disability claiming PSTD from Vietnam (he was in maintenance) twenty five years after the fact. I was told by the gal on the phone at finance that this is happening more and more as a way for retirees to get out of honoring their court ordered committment to ex wives as disability pay is not considered community property to divide. His brother has told me this is a scam, but since PTSD can't be proven or disproven, it's normally awarded with no question.
I never knew this could happen. I never remarried and on my salary (low from moving every two years while he was an officer and never developed a career or my own!) I am losing my home, my car, I don't even know if I can afford at age 55 to live with a roommate if I can even find one, can't qualify for a loan to purchase any place to live, have cancelled back surgery because I can't afford the deductible, my mother was moving in with me as she's aged and now she must go to a nursing home which breaks her heart. I had a life!
An attorney tells me I can fight, but it's doubtful I would win as rulings are almost always in favor of the vet. I can't believe this is possible to happen to former spouses. I hear there are some women sleeping in their cars as they have no where to go! Until concurrent pay is awarded through legislation, this will not change. I can't believe life can be this unfair.
Is there another woman out there who has confronted this that has taken it to court or does anyone have any advice? I had faith in the judicial system that awarded me this, basically my future, and it can be so easily taken away?
thanks in advance to anyone who can help.