My question involves adoption law for the State of: Ohio
My husband of a year and a half would like to adopt my son. The problem is that I never listed the father of my son on the birth certificate. He was abusive during the pregnancy and after 5 months of my pregnancy I left him. I was also 17 years old and in high school. He was 4 and a half years older than me. My parents and I never did file any charges against him. The only thing I have against him on paper is when he hurt me while I was 7 weeks pregnant and had to go to the hospital for bleeding. He has made threats over the phone right after my son was born and has threatened family members that he was going to hurt me and take my son, but he never did anything. I did not ever hide from him but I also made no attempt to bring my child to him. He has never helped in anyway. All medical bills were paid by my parents and I have always provided for him. My husband has been taking care of him since he was 4 and he is now 9. If I make contact with him I am afraid for my safety plus my families safety. My husband and I have a daughter together and I'm afraid he will hurt her too. My ex also has had many children with underage girls over the past nine years. Would that prove him to be unfit? He doesn't provide for any of them either and he is listed on most of the birth certificates. Another thing is I don't know where he lives, he actually still uses my moms address and phone number for most of his mail. Would the lawyer try to find him and contact him? If there could be contact I would rather not have my husband to adopt him. Thank you so much for your time.