Re: Charges Dismissed After 3 Instances of Victim Failure to Appear
In my state, parents who are victims of DV and then drop the matter and return to their abuser get put under a microscope by CPS. I have accompanied CPS numerous times when we have gone to take children out of the home for this.
I do not know the laws for subpoena service in your state, but in most places it does not have to be handed to you. They can simply yell through the screen door that it's there and drop it on the ground. It can even be delivered via the mail ... or done via public notice of some kind. There are options.
If you wish to remain in a violent and abusive relationship, that is your choice. But, do not subject the child to it. If he means more to you than the child, then give up the child. Oh, and if this guy is not the father, and CPS gets involved, it is YOU (not he) that could be charged with the child neglect for failure to protect him. So, continue on this path and you will likely lose your child.
For your own good, go to court and do the right thing. He did this to you, it was not a mistake and he will not change without being compelled to do so. You do him no favors by letting him get away with this, you only guarantee that it will continue because he will know that he will have control over you, and, that any future reports by you will be discounted because of this flakiness. He will be absolutely in control if you continue to avoid the situation ... not to mention you risk being arrested fr contempt of court.
A Nor Cal Police Sergeant
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