Okay a few things. My husband was arrested on domestic violence simple battery charges (misdemeanor) last week. With a history of dui, driving under suspension. The DA (state of ca) is pressing charges. I moved out immediately told my landlord to take me off the lease, got my name off bills. So now what? My hours were cut at my job a few months ago and I have to live with my family as of now. Otherwise I would've stayed at our house, and paid for everything myself, and he could've moved out. He was paying one of my credit cards, most of the rent, and half of my 390 dollar car payment. All in all he supported me.
First of all, I have NO health insurance. If we stay separated I have this benefit until I can get on my feet. I do have health problems and this would be a lifesaver for me. However, this would prolong divorce.
Second of all, I cannot afford a divorce. I have really no financial means, except him, to do this divorce. I am meeting with a paralegal on monday to start the process. It is 200 dollars (which I don't have). I plan on meeting with him to discuss who is paying for the fees, who is doing the dirty work, who is actually filing for divorce. He is too lazy and uninvolved, and I am too poor. I plan on meeting with him also, with my father present, so we can discuss other assets as well. He is currently trying to buy my father's car (which he was driving for a month and hadn't paid off). I really don't want to go to court 5 times or so if him and I can agree on financial issues beforehand. It would save us time and money.
Third of all, do I qualify for alimony because of the situation? I had to leave, with him halfway supporting me. Or is alimony going to be something we need to go see a judge for? I am young, and I know nothing about divorce.
Any advice greatly appreciated!