Confirming Paternity After Infidelity by a Spouse

**Arteous** · 04-16-2009, 03:56 PM

My question involves paternity law for the State of: Michigan. My wife left me for 2 months to engage in an affair. She came back saying that she was pregnant but no matter what wanted me to raise the child. I took her back so that I would have knowledge and say on what happens with her and the child. If it is not mine than I want a divorce but if it is then I am not in a position to pay CS so I guess I am stuck with her. So my question is which is easier to get done timely and cheaply:

To have my name removed from the Birth Certificate or to get it added. I want to get the Pat test done without her knowledge because if she knows that I would leave her then she would leave me and then if it is mine then I get stuck with CS payments. Would a home DNA test stand up in court? Would I be better off refusing to sign the certificate until I am proved to be the father?

Any help with my questions or explanation about the whole process would be greatly appreciated.

jk · 04-16-2009, 04:26 PM

Home DNA test; no
refusing to sign; yes, but isn't that going to alert her just as much as DNA test would?

why would she leave you just because you got a DNA test? You already knew she was stepping out. Did you already tell her you would leave her if it wasn't yours?

She is going to know about a court ordered DNA test so I would simply say; "For my own peace of mind, I want to know for sure" What you say to her other than that is up to you.

**Arteous** · 04-16-2009, 09:19 PM

She knows I want a DNA test but I think she is under the impression sometime in the next couple of years or so. I would rather know the answer to the DNA test before she leaves the hospital so I know whether to take her back home or drop her at her mother's house. I am hoping to do this nice and smoothly and not have a huge event that winds up on Springer. Can I get results that quickly. I am just trying to figure out if I should lie low at first until I can know for sure or if it is possible for me to know right away.

**aaron** · 04-17-2009, 05:06 AM

You know, back in the stone age they used a simple means of determining paternity. It's nowhere near as accurate as DNA, due to false inclusions of fathers, but it's pretty clear-cut when there's an exclusion. Blood typing.

If you know her blood type (likely in her medical chart) and you know yours, and the hospital checks the baby's, you may be able to find out from that if you're excluded as the father.

You can check with the hospital or other area labs as to how quickly they can turn around a DNA test. All they need are buccal (cheek) swabs these days, so its painless to the baby. You may not get a test you can use in court (due to questions about whose DNA was actually tested) but you'll get an answer to your concern.

**Arteous** · 04-17-2009, 12:13 PM

So am I understanding this correctly that there is not a fast DNA test. It might take a few days to a week or so. No way for me to know right away. I am just afraid that if I show her my hand then she will leave and it will be my child and I will have to pay CS to that slut.

jk · 04-17-2009, 01:00 PM

what a loving relationship this child will be experiencing.

**CourtClerk** · 04-18-2009, 09:04 AM

Quoting jk

what a loving relationship this child will be experiencing.

My thoughts exactly. I suggest adoption of the child, regardless of the parentage.

**ecmont4413** · 06-30-2009, 01:00 AM

Quoting Arteous

My question involves paternity law for the State of: Michigan. My wife left me for 2 months to engage in an affair. She came back saying that she was pregnant but no matter what wanted me to raise the child. I took her back so that I would have knowledge and say on what happens with her and the child. If it is not mine than I want a divorce but if it is then I am not in a position to pay CS so I guess I am stuck with her. So my question is which is easier to get done timely and cheaply:

To have my name removed from the Birth Certificate or to get it added. I want to get the Pat test done without her knowledge because if she knows that I would leave her then she would leave me and then if it is mine then I get stuck with CS payments. Would a home DNA test stand up in court? Would I be better off refusing to sign the certificate until I am proved to be the father?

Any help with my questions or explanation about the whole process would be greatly appreciated.

I always thought if you are married you will automatically be named as the father. Looks like you could care less for her (your wife) and the child, so you might as well GO, BEFORE THE GOING GETS TOUGH! You will end up paying for the baby NOW, if you chose to stay or maybe later.