Re: Charged with California Penal Code 243(E)(1) PC
A call to the local Bar Association, or a trip through the phone book are good places to start when looking for an attorney.
Depending on your county, the District Attorney may not concern him or herself with the wishes of your wife. The state expects the victim to recant as they do so on more than 75% of all DV cases, so the state is used to pursuing these without cooperation from the victim.
If found guilty, a first offender can generally expect fines, probation, and mandatory counseling. However, local practices might vary, so you will need to speak with that local attorney.
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