I obtained a final order of visitation in NY in 2000.
Since then I have had many issues enforcing the visitation because whenever it suited the CP, she would deny me access, not answer the door, lie to the police when I called them, even claiming the final order had expired.
In late January, she finally got my 10 year old to refuse to come down for pick up for two consecutive visits (alternate weekends) until I "learned a lesson". I drive across town to pick-up and refuse to keep playing this game with her. It's been 10 years and I'm frustrated and hurt. Furthermore, my child made certain comments that led me to believe that she can and will use our child against me in court. So, I haven't gone back since. I feel like I can't keep fighting this endless unnecessary war, when all I want is to pick up my child and proceed with my day, especially when I feel that she is trying to set me up so that if I go to court, I will lose or look unfit. She's done it before and it cost me time and a job, after numerous adjournments, to clear it up. At the same time, I don't want her to use this to further alienate me by telling my child I've abandoned.
I am scheduled for a visitation this weekend.
Is there anything she can do legally to prevent my visitation since I haven't attempted a pick up since January?
Can a court suspend or terminate my visitation because I stop going? Could she petition the court without my knowledge?
I'm not sure I'm ready to go back yet, but if I do I may have to violate her for refusing the pick-up. Could she counter that by saying I stopped pick-ups or some other accusation? She would easily have our child lie to have the court rule in her favor.