Unwanted Visitor at Places of Work

[wtskbunnies]

My question involves defamation in the state of: minnesota

to make this quite short: my roommate has and so it seems violated my places of work by coming in uninvited several times, and once i was given an ultimatum after approx. 12-13 reminders that it's not okay to come by my work any longer. he kept on coming in, and one night a co-worker and friend off duty were working, and he came in uninvited as usual and violated her personal space. i understand that yes it has affected and continues to effect her emotional state, but, it also does the same for me during work because we're afraid he'll stop in again because we do work in one of the more popular malls which is a public space, but at the same time it has greatly thrown off the balance of our work.

i also work at a property where i live, and yes i understand he has as much right to go into the office where i do work as a resident BUT!! he continues to put my job in jeopardy by opening his mouth about PERSONAL things that have happened that have NOTHING to do with my work, but, it feels like it has and still is a violation of my space-and consider this intrusion harassment.

any suggestions on how this should be handled, my boss/property manager has already tried to help, and this was before he came in a harassed my co-worker. should i get a restraining order and call it stalking????

[LawResearcherMissy]

Let me make sure I understand you correctly - you have two jobs, one at a mall, one as...a leasing agent?

In both instances, your boss can elect to ban your roommate from the premises. In the case of the mall store, have your boss notify mall security that he is not welcome in the store. When he comes in, call security to have him escorted out. He has no inherent right to be there, the store can refuse service to anyone.

In the case of the property, it's a bit more of a sticky wicket, particularly since he's your roommate. Have your boss inform him that he is not to come into the office unless it is on actual property business - paying the rent, filing a request for repairs, and such.

[aardvarc]

In addition to Missy's spot on advice, yes, you can apply for a restraining order, but you're going to need more than him showing up at your place of work (which as Missy pointed out you can end immediately by asking police to trespass him from the property - telling him not to return or he'll be arrested). Note that even this won't apply to the whole mall, unless mall security has some reason to request a similar trespass warning, so he could still walk through the public areas, the parking lots, etc.

Have there been threats, has there been violence, do you have a police report on any incident (remember, the court is going to wonder why you choose to live with him, then want an order to keep him away from work when you're perfectly happy to go home to him). To be successful in getting such an order, it's typically going to take some set of circumstances, proven to the judge's satisfaction, that he's a potential danger to you (or believes that there may be criminal activity of harassment, thanks to your police report). If granted, such an order is going to keep him away from you in ALL places, including home. Judging from the vast numbers of such cases we see here, the outcome will be that your roommate (since he can't be/live there anymore) will stop paying rent (whether he pays it to you or the landlord). You'll then have to come up with the money on your own and sue him in court to TRY to get his share at a later date. Then, even if you WIN the case that he owes rent, collecting it from him is a totally different, and very difficult, ball game. In other words, so long as you're willingly living with him, your chances of successfully getting an order are slim, and the outcome if you DO get one may have unintended consequences for you financially.

[wtskbunnies]

yes, his mother implied it would be okay to throw knives at me, and now he wants to "get rid of me using some type of poison"...there is no joke to his words and he has been known for aggression. because i haven't known what to do for the past week, i do have the dates written of these things and i may have a witness who'd be willing to make a statement. i know it's not my problem but he does use the term "KILL" [QUITE A LOT!!] to plot against his cousin, and he gets awfully over excited about what seems to be his obsession

but as for the character thing...i perhaps have written in the wrong thread-but other than that he does continue to open his mouth about things i haven't done that he likes to claim i've done...but it's really HIS problems that he thinks i should take the blame for if ya' sort of know what i mean by falsely passing on his problems by saying i've done something that HE's done in actual events. he has and still goes into the office disregarding that my manager/property manager gave him a kind warning a few times this past july when i started considering things harassment-to only having it be rent, and or maintenance issues stuff.

also i DON'T choose to come home at night. i've been sleeping in my buildings clubhouse from the time i heard that he wanted to poison me. i'm a bit afraid to get in his line of fire if he chooses to go back to his aggression and or actually making it a motion to have me poisoned or "killed" as a way of solving his problems. and because i've been out of town i haven't had to go back into the apartment, and i'm pretty sure i should still file a police report. just as a precaution.