my hubby is a GA army national guard memeber just recently put on Mobilization orders and preparing to leave for deployment this spring. his ex-girlfriend and him share two children (11 & 12). the mother kept the children from their father for two years.for several years the mother was absent and the grandmother cared for the children. the grandmother moved west and the mother was incarcerated for almost a year on a felony charge of filing off serial numbers to some guns as well as a drug charge. for 3 years, the children lived with their father and when we got married and my hubby went to basic training, the mother took the kids away again. of course, there was nothing we could do. for two years now, we have fought tooth and nail just to see and speak to them. the mother has lately been calling hubbys unit and threatening to call battalion claiming he refuses to put the kids on his medical benefits and refuses to pay child support and she wants all his pay. what recourse do we have when hubby is in mobilization and unable to make court dates following suit for child support. we have paid in the past, and paying now is not an issue. she refuses to accept any money from us or except any items we purchase for the children. she claims she is entitled to all his pay. we have requested documents and ss# to get benefits and she refuses to comply.one of the kids birth certificates doesn't even state hubby as the father. i've read we can get a stay of proceedings and this is what he wants to do. hubby needs to have a fair trial and in order to do that, he needs to appear in court. he cannot do that on out of state mobilization and out of country deployment. we are speaking with attorneys but finances are tight for us as hubby was laid off before xmas because of mandatory drill interfering with work schedule. please any help.