My Ex's Crazy New Boyfriend

[aka1dad]

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Ohio

My ex has a new boyfriend, that she met online. They have only been together 8 months and are already talking marriage and kids, which is what my son comes back telling me. This guy is a real piece of work. I have had him write numerous vengeful emails calling(cursing) me names, saying things like if I try to take my ex back to court I will end up with less time with my son and paying out more child support to my ex, he states his opinion of me, basically that he thinks I am a crappy father and how they have to force my son to come to my house for visitation because he hates to be with me. All this in response to civil emails I send my ex wife discussing visitation and other issues that involve my son. I know he has some past domestic violence charges and I am really worried for my son. This guy has some serious anger management issues. Also, I wonder if this is being expressed in front of my child and am wondering if it harbors a negative attitude, as far as the relationship I have with my son. I have heard courts frown on this type of behavior, so my question is....does this help my case should I attempt a return to court or would it be a waste of time?

[jennia1979]

My ex has a new boyfriend, that she met online. They have only been together 8 months and are already talking marriage and kids, which is what my son comes back telling me. This guy is a real piece of work. I have had him write numerous vengeful emails calling(cursing) me names, saying things like if I try to take my ex back to court I will end up with less time with my son and paying out more child support to my ex, he states his opinion of me, basically that he thinks I am a crappy father and how they have to force my son to come to my house for visitation because he hates to be with me. All this in response to civil emails I send my ex wife discussing visitation and other issues that involve my son. I know he has some past domestic violence charges and I am really worried for my son. This guy has some serious anger management issues. Also, I wonder if this is being expressed in front of my child and am wondering if it harbors a negative attitude, as far as the relationship I have with my son. I have heard courts frown on this type of behavior, so my question is....does this help my case should I attempt a return to court or would it be a waste of time?

A substantial change in circumstances is a reason to take someone back to court for a modification in custody. Your ex having a new boyfriend (I assume they live together too) And this new found hate he has for you. If you went back to court you probably not end up with less time and in some states they include a spouses income with child support so if they marry you could end up paying less, but If you are able to show the courts that his behavior is harmful to your son, via his emails, and things that your son has relayed to you about his time around this man. Just make sure the things you say will be used against you too. In your case you can reuest that a gaurdian ad litem be assigned to your son, in which case the courts will investigate his living situation, the people that are around, as well as they will talk to you son to see how he feels and all of that will wiegh on teh judges decision. It's always worth a try if it is in the best interest of your child.