In the span of a few years, my sister has married 3 times and had 2 kids by two different men. She moves frequently and she is very self-centered. She has stolen identities of family members as well as some jewelry. Her only concerns are getting drunk and taking advantage of people. In the meantime, her kids are suffering. She has made it known that the only reason she wants the kids is for the state aid. The oldest, now 6, flunked Kindergarten. He now is living with my mother which has been a much more stable environment. My wife and I have been providing clothing, toys, and food since my mother is not financially well-off. Having seen the improvement in the oldest kid, my mom and I have been pressuring my sister to do the same for the 4 year old (who by the way still isn't potty-trained and has the mouth of a sailor). In response, my sister is holding the 6-year-old ransom by making my mother pay off some of her debt in order for my mother to keep him. However, I'm afraid I've pushed too far. She is now going to take him back and even worse is going to throw away everything that has been provided to him (books, toys, clothes, etc.). What complicates this story is I live in Ohio, my mother (along with the 6 year-old) live in Virginia, and my sister is either in California or Missouri. What are my options? I'm giving up on my sister but I don't want to give up on her kids.