ex husband & his new wife

[tnklynn]

Ok well since I have the whole adoption thing figured out here is another question.
Me and my ex husband have 3 children together. The youngest is a boy and he is 2 years old. Now my ex also has a stepson and a 2 yr old son with his current wife. To make a long story short he was cheating on me when I was preg with our 3rd.
Anyway to get back to the topic at hand ... he got all the kids Christmas day around 1 oclock and was supposed to have them until Jan 1st. Then after the 3rd day of having them he calls me about 8 oclock at night telling me that our 2 year old wants to come home. That the whole time all hes been doing is crying and that they can not handle him anymore.
But its always like this when he goes down there. If and when he does go down there. Half the time he doesnt even get the kids when hes supposed to and when he does most of the time he will get the 2 oldest and not get our 2 year old.
I think that has a lot to do with him having problems with him when hes down there. So what should I do? I mean I think he would be better off not going down there at all not until he gets older anyway. I just dont think that its doing him any good to be there when his fathers not there in the first place hes always at work and that leaves the new wife there with him and shes said millions of times that she can not handle taking care of 5 kids and that its not her place to be watching my kids when they are there in the first place.

[Mr. Knowitall]

It sounds like you need to keep a diary of the problems your ex- is having with the exercise of his parenting time and, if things don't improve, revisiting parenting time with the court such that he is awarded no more than he can actually handle.

[tnklynn]

But as far as parenting time goes he hardly gets them anyway. He is supposed to get them every other weekend, which he rarely does. A couple of months ago he called me wanting to change that time from every other weekend to just getting them 1 night every week. When I asked if that meant our 2 year old also he said no that he would have to figure something else out when it comes to him. It's like he doesnt even want him.
My 2 year old is more excited to see his stepdad then he is about going down there.
I'm at a loss and dont know what to do. I keep everything written down already. All the phone calls, all the times he doesnt get him, all the times he does and then brings him home early. I'm still close to my ex husbands grandmother and even she has told me that she doesnt blame him for not wanting to go down there.
It just tears my heart out everytime he does go because I know he doesnt want to.