Re: Previously Chaste Character
then you need to understand he is still dating a 16 yo kid.
=SimplerLife;248234]Gee. What great advice. Like he doesn't already know that one by heart.
Are you 16? If not, then you and your husbands relationship is nothing like your sons and the kid.
This really isn't about what a criminal he is. It's not about him "leaving kids alone." I hope you don't have a son. If you do, and he manages to fall for someone 3 years younger than him, I hope you don't treat him like a criminal. (My husband is 4 years older than me. He'll be thrilled to know you think he's a pedophile.)
I'm out of line? You are the one blaiming the girl and her parents when in reality, it appears to be your son that is the major cause of the problems. He is an adult after all. He needs to act as such.
I don't know what I said that made you feel your presumption that I haven't counseled him thoroughly, wisely, and well is justified -- but you're out of line.
from your original post:
Did you read my post? Because that wasn't even a little bit apparent. So I was wondering.
How would the girl know where your son was unless you or your son told her? Since he had to have told her, HE (or you if it was you) have re-initiated the problem.
s bad luck would have it, and as pretty much anybody including me could have predicted, they have reunited.
He is now 19, and she is now 16. The threats of prosecution for statutory rape have escalated, and as of last week, her parents have informed her that they've asked the DA to look into it.
Well, you blame the girl for everything although your son is "an adult". She would have no idea where your son was unless somebody told her on your side of the situation. Since you admitted that in the first post and then denied it later, I would call that blindly supporting your son, regardless of how many wrong things he has done.
Blindly supporting him? Boy. You must be clairvoyant -- or you must just think so.
You blame her parents for doing nothing:
You want to claim you son to be this perfect holier than thou guy that is the girls savior :
Her parents do absolutely nothing to control her. It would be so easy for them to keep her from seeing my son. All they have to do is take away her car, her phone, the ungodly amount of money and freedom she has, and watch her. You know, like raise her. Know where she is at all times. The mother doesn't work. She could take her to and from school and keep an eye on her -- you know, as in raise her
But here is the problem:
He's supposed to raise her for them I guess.
Gee! Whose fault is this?
It isn;t the girl. If your son wanted to stay away, he would. He want to continue his sexual relationship with this kid regardless of the possible consequences.
Don't you get it? Your son is causing his own problems. Regardless how poorly the girls parents may be raising this child, your son had the opportunity to remove himself from the situation but he jumped back in to it.
He deserves whatever he gets at this point.
You need to open your eyes to what is really happening and quit blaming others.
btw; I believe the girls parents are raising their child. That is why they are getting the law involved. They want to keep your son away from her and having him arrested and prosecuted appears to be the only way to achieve this goal.
I am not an attorney and any advice is not to be construed as legal advice. You might even want to ignore my advice. Actually, there are plenty of real attorneys that you might want to ignore as well.