Establishing Paternity with Adoption

BELINDA06 · #1 08-23-2008, 12:16 AM

My question involves paternity law for the State of: illinois

If the bio-father of my child has not established paternity will he lose his rights if i get married and my husband adopts my child?

queenie2 · #2 08-23-2008, 08:14 AM

Yes, he will lose his rights; however, he will still have to be identified and notified of the adoption proceedings so that he can contest the adoption if he chooses.

CourtClerk · #3 08-23-2008, 05:20 PM

At 17, neither you or your teenaged husband to be will have the funds to pursue an adoption. Further, most courts require long term marriages before they will even CONSIDER adoption.

On top of that, your record of stability speaks for itself. You are 17, pregnant, not with the boy that created a child, but already have found yourself with a new boy. While you may be willing to subject your child to such dysfunction, a court will not play a party to 2 children playing around with another innocent child's life.

BELINDA06 · #4 08-24-2008, 01:38 PM

Quoting queenie2

Yes, he will lose his rights; however, he will still have to be identified and notified of the adoption proceedings so that he can contest the adoption if he chooses.

so he has to agree to have our child adopted??

BELINDA06 · #5 08-24-2008, 01:42 PM

i understand that but we have our own place my fiane is 20, im in my last yr of highschool and he's working in construstion... if i get help and get paternity established and have him pay child support.. he will then have da right to ask for custody.. which is what im scared of... he has no job and is full time student starting a football career.. he doesnt plan on working seeing that he has no time...what can i do? just the thought of losing my child is scary..

cyjeff · #6 08-24-2008, 02:36 PM

As has been stated several times on this and every other legal board under the sun, if you didn't want this person to have a legal and emotional right to be in your child's life, you shouldn't have slept with him.

However, you did... and that gives the true father certain rights... once paternity is established.

It is NEVER, repeat NEVER, a good idea to knowingly lie on a government document... especially a legally binding one.

If you really want to make this work... here is what you do.

First, marry your "fiancee". Stay married a year.

Second, approach the father at the end of that year. Tell him that you won't pursue child support if he signs over paternity to the child to your husband.

You are going to have a hard time convincing a judge to allow a boyfriend to adopt.

BELINDA06 · #7 08-24-2008, 09:29 PM

ok thank u to all!! i just didnt wanna do anything stupid u kno? i needed good advice : ]
but still my baby daddy is so ignorant he tells me he'll fight if i ever move in with my fiance because he doesn't want him around and says he has rights.. i just want peace..