Appeal On Restraining Order

[bluediamondsx]

My question involves restraining orders in the State of: Virginia

I have a restraining order on my bf since May 2nd, 2008. It was set for 2 years. That same day he appealed and we have to go to court on the 23rd to set a date for the appeal. I have no intention of continuing with the protective order, we are going to therapy and trying to work things out. Can we say that in that date or at the appeal??

[aardvarc]

So you are knowingly encouraging him to violate the order currently standing - and he's violating it by having DOCUMENTED contact with you??????

NOT smart. Go back to court, request the order be dropped - and stay away from him until then unless you want him in jail.

[bluediamondsx]

DOCUMENTED contact? I havent had any contact. I just know from a friend that he had some kind of anxiety attack and went to the doctor and was diagnosed with Depression among other things, and was prohibited of taking all his pills and shakes for bodybuilding. All of which I knew before hand were not good for him and were a key factor of what was happening. So, if im in therapy to deal with what has happenendand hes in therapy to deal with what happened (individually). Then maybe we can fix this? Maybe??

[aardvarc]

Ok - when you said: "we are in therapy and trying to work things out" - it sounded like you were in therapy together (like couples counseling). If that had been the case, there would be documentation of the appointments, payments, etc.

As far as the relationship being fixable, never say never. It'll depend on how much he's willing to work to make changes - changes in attitudes, changes in expression of anger or frustration, etc. Just keep in mind that no matter how much YOU are willing to work to make repairs and move forward in a more healthy relationship, he'll have to do whatever work is needed on his end to meet you halfway. It's entirely possible that you two could grow old happily together.