My question involves emancipation laws for the State of: New York.
I am 16 years old, and I feel mentally abused by my father. He plays mind games with me and clearly favors my brother and my sister over me, who are both older. My brother, being 17, had many more rights and privelages at my age, and he wasn't costantly being eyed like a hawk by my father. My sister was never bothered by him. I think this is the problem;
My mother and my father had a divorce when I was about 7 years old, making that around 9 years ago. My father, in my personal opinion, manipulated my brother and my sister and had them favor him over our mother. I, on the other hand, was always closer with my mother and always have felt more comfortable with her than my father. In regards to this, I am sure that this is why my father feels like I need to be endlessly watched over by him. That, or he feels like he has to make up the attention that my mother can't give to me physically.
To date, I can't remember being treated equally to my brother and my sister. My father and I get into large and escalating yet arguments, previously physical fights. My father feels like I have a lack of respect for him and that I am influenced by my friends to be rebelious. However, I am not rebelious. I remain respectful to him unless he begins yelling at me, because the only time he does yell at me is when I am tired and have just woken up. It's a patern I've noticed. Naturally, I'm groggy when I wake up, so his yelling at me doesn't help to reduce an argument and the blame is always poured all over me. This has been going on ever since I was thirteen, so for the past three years I've been convinced that there was something wrong with myself, or that there was something about me that my father knew and I didn't that made him repulsed by my prescense. However, I realize now that it has to be my being close with my mother. Listen;
He wasn't there for my birth. He often took Valium when I was a kid, I remember. He was a chain smoker until about 2 or 3 years ago, and he often cursed, consecutively found new girlfriends after my mother left, never planned a marriage until his most recent girlfriend who left him for the same reason my mother did, and he often had premarital sex. It's odd, too, because he really pushes the catholic religion on our family.
I have gotten into trouble with drugs in my school when I was 15. There is one of my worries.
I can find a full time job and maintain it, I'm sure of that. I wouldn't mind dropping out of school right now and obtaining a GED later on in my teenage life if I was granted emancipation for maintaining a job. I need to get out of this house, though. I understand that with what I've written, you, the reader, must be thinking that this is far less worse than other stories you have read or heard. However, I've contemplated running away, suicide, and other terrible decisions over the idea of me being stuck with my distant and aloof father. My mother is in Texas and can barely support herself, so it would be hard for her to obtain custody of me. My father is so pressuring, often times he will attempt making me feel guilty if I don't meet his desires. I'd really like to get out of this house, because I haven't done anything special in a very long time. Often I'll sit on my bed doing random internet searches. I've covered my windows completely, so my room is always dark. And I have a problem looking people in the eyes. This is what I think is social anxiety, and I've developed it from living with my father, I beleive. Not once do I remember him being comfortable around any outsiders, or trying to make friends with other people. It's what's happening to me; I shelter myself like he does, and I burn a lot of bridges from bottling up so many of my feelings.
I'd like to break that trend.
I'd like to leave my father and become emancipated, and I am hoping to do so after a summer's worth of hard work and clearly being able to finance and support myself if ever necessary. I would hope to show this to a judge. My only worries are my father objecting, and also my previous drug related problems.
Respectfully yours, A.P.S