[Stellarrescape]

My question involves juvenile law in the State of: MA

Okay, so I'm going to be 17 years old in June. My mom and I have had a rough year. I lived with her part time till I was eight years old then I moved in with my grandparents. I was there till last year. I have delt with their emotional abuse for so long. Now living with my mom we hardly know each other and there's hardly anything we can do to fix that now. I have a job so I'm independant for the most part
My mom has a drug problem with pot and with pain medications. Once her pain meds are gone she ALWAYS (it's predictable at this point) finds a way to get more. The house is a mess to the point where I am almost never home so I can stay away from it. When I clean it doesn't stay clean long, and she doesn't help.
She works for the State (Department of Public Health) and has her connections. She's been known to try to get me arrested several times.
During an argument one time I told her I was going in my room to calm down. And she threatened to kick down my door when I locked it to stay away from her abusive language.
I don't really know what to do. It seems like she has a lot of connections with the State.
My boyfriends family is moving to Florida and really would like me to go with them. I want to go. To start over and stay away from the stress here. It would be a lot better for me (emotionally). His family cares about me more then mine ever has.
My mom would never give me permission and MA doesn't have an offical thing for emancipation.
If I left and moved with them without her permission could she really do anything? She can't put me on CHINS at age 17. So I'm not sure what she could do.
I'm asking this because if I leave I don't want to get my boyfriend's family in any trouble. They are not kidnapping me in anyway. (as my mom would say)

[cyjeff]

Until you are 18, you go where your mother tells you to go and stay where your mother wants you to stay.

No judge in any jurisdiction is going to allow you move out against your mother's wishes so that you can move in with your boyfriend.

Not going to happen. Ever.

[cissycicle]

If a minor leaves home without parental consent, he/she is a runaway. Moving in with the family of your boyfriend would be considered "harboring a minor runaway" is a criminal act and yes, you would be causing the family legal trouble. Not sure, but crossing state lines could also be a point of interest.

Crossing state lines could make offense a felony

[Stellarrescape]

Okay so I get I can't exactly leave.
Especially with my boyfriend.
But just because I'm a teenager trying to live with my boyfriend doesn't mean I'm irresponsible in anyway. I'm trying to get away from a bad situation that you guys don't seem to understand.
I'd leave with them even if we weren't dating; it has nothing to do with the situation.

So I'm trying to get advice for what I should do. For example loop holes? Taking it to court? Or maybe good ways to talk to my mom about this.

[Stellarrescape]

Also if she can't put me on CHINs what more can she do?

[cyjeff]

She can have you returned as a runaway and have the people harboring you arrested.

No one on this board is going to give you loopholes so that you can circumvent the law.

All moms and kids are different. Have you thought about waiting until you are both calm and sitting down over a meal or something and talking about it.

Not accusing, not yelling, not blaming... just talking.

You want to be considered a legal adult. Here is your chance to act like one.

[Stellarrescape]

Thank you for the help. (Sort of).
I think the best possible way of handling it maybe talking about it in therapy.
Hopefully I can get through to her and get her permission.

Thats the smartest thing you have said so far