What Will Happen When My Kids Go Overseas To Spend Time With Their Father?

**Allbymyself008** · 04-28-2008, 11:45 PM

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Nebraska

Okay, so over a year ago, my ex husband had a kidnapping charge against him for not wanting to bring back the kids to me. This is on his record now even on his drivers license. He is actually in the military and stationed in Germany with his new family. But lately the kids are wanting to go see him in Germany and I feel it is time to full fill this request. However, I would want to know how this can be done? Will I have to do some paperwork in this matter since my ex still has that charge on his kneck? Basically, he can not legally take the kids out of the state of Nebraska because of what happend and this could be a big problem.

I have requested of him to work out some sort of a one way trip for the kids while I do the same on my part, so that we can work together on this. I may be the one to take the kids to germany and he may be the one to bring them back. Most of my family and friends do not think that my ex will want to return the kids to me again especially since my ex is in germany....this will be much trouble financially for me if he does the same thing again. But for the kids sake, I want to trust that he will do the right thing and allow me to have the kids for the school year while he gets them for the summer. The kids are just 5 and 3.

What scares me though is that he still sends me emails about how the kids would be better off with him than me...when i have a good enough job and I am taking care of the kids just as well as he is with his family of six. He only thinks that though because he is married and has four kids, two of which are from his wifes ex husband. He even tells me that I should go back to school to get a degree...which of course is not a bad idea but then he lives in germany and my trips out there are going to be expensive and for me not to see the kids like that would drive me nuts((although, when I look at it, their father does not get to see them that much either))...I dont have the money to do that. He also wants for me to give him temporary custody; which of course this is what he was trying to do last time he had the kids. I am very weary of this trip all together but know that it has been a long time coming. I only hope that I am going to do the right thing.

So are there any laws to help bring back my kids if this was to happen again? Can he legally keep the kids over there even though something will be signed before going over there? I am going to guess that once something is written on paper about his rights as opposed to mine, the paper will be the one that tells what needs to be done. I only hope that he will not do his own thing though......

**Dad2** · 04-29-2008, 03:23 AM

You need to file for a modification.
If you send the kids over there, and the court orders say you can't do that, you are in contempt just as much as him.
As for what happens once they get over there...
Well, unless you go with them, there's no guarantee they will come back.