When I was 14 I was sexually solicited by a 21 year old. At the time I thought it was a real relationship but since we lived in different states it was hard to try to make it real. We never actually met so I have always felt that it doesn't count as sexual abuse of any kind. I was definitely emotionally abused, sent pornographic materials, coerced into sexual activity (masturbation, phone sex, cybersex), and he attempted many times to try to meet me in person to have sex. I don't know if I would press charges or not. I however know that he is in contact with some underage girls at the moment and have contacted those in charge in setting in which he met them and warned them. They said they would look into it but I haven't heard back. I thought maybe if I knew of legally how this all fit I wouldn't think I was stupid for feeling abused even though as a few people have responded "but he never touched you". Also, which of our states would the law follow, mine or his(NY,MD)?