My mother is currently in AL with her current husband. She is 51 and has advanced Parkinson’s disease and can no longer care for herself. He no longer wants to take on the financial obligations of a disabled spouse and wants to dump her on my doorstep empty handed after 13 years of marriage.
I live in FL and have no problem assuming responsibility. However, she will need to be qualified for Medicaid and disability, which both take 90-120 days down here. In the meantime she needs in-home healthcare, which is pretty damn expensive to pay out of pocket. My quandary is 1) how do I go about taking legal charge and getting a settlement out of him and 2) how do I do it so that the money she gets doesn’t disqualify her for disability and Medicaid. I am also not sure what I can and can’t do regarding taking money out of the bank accounts and filing before I get up there to get her. I want to take him by complete surprise so that what funds are there are not missing when I get up to get her. Can I do all of this with a simple “Full Power of Attorney,” “Medical Power of Attorney,” “General Durable Power of Attorney,” and a “Living Will”?
Thanks for your help!