My question involves restraining orders in the State of: VA
I was assaulted by my ex who got a deferred finding. He continued to harrass and threaten me, which made it necessary to get a protective order, which he violated and I filed a complaint. It was several months before it went to trial. In the meantime, he continued to violate the order resulting in an arrest each time which resulted in getting released on a low bond. He got out and violated it again and again while out on bond with a protective order violation conviction and the prior assault against me while I am now alledging stalking. when I contact the prosecutor to advise of the ongoing problems and request that the matter be brought back before the court since he has continued to act crazy, I am treated as if I am the crazy one. I was also given a warning by the prosecutor that if I keep filing charges for every violation, the court will start to doubt my credibility. I didn't report every single violation, which only made things worse.
My first question is why do they keep allowing him to be released on bail under these circumstances? When is he considered dangerous?
Since I put distance between us and then got a no contact order, why would the court get tired of me reporting him instead of getting tired of him violating the order and scrutinize me? Lastly, since VA allows for civil penalties for stalking, do I have to suffer an actual loss like lost wages in order to file it, or will the fear and emotional stress be sufficient in making a case? Is it necessary to try to have my own attorney in addition to the prosecutor since technically they are not "my" lawyer and represent the state?
I am not going to pretend that I am not still angry for what he did to me. I had no choice but to accept that he kept getting the benefit of the doubt with all the probation and suspended sentences, but now that I have tried to establish that it didn't work, is there any way to "demand" that he be held accountable for each and every thing he got away with up front without getting labled vindictive? I have written letters to express my concerns without telling them they messed up, but I feel that if I don't make any noise, he is going to eventually kill me and they are going to act surprised. I realize that I am talking about separate entities such as the judges, attorney, and magistrates, but that seems to make it even worse. I apologize for the length, but appreciate any help you can give on how to remain tactful when they don't seem to mind when I get my butt kicked and harassed. Thank you.