Kid Decided Pot Was More Important Than Car Or His Great Life

[snippyhead]

My son recently imformed me that he was smoking pot. I told him that if he didn't have it in his car that he could still drive his car and resume his normal life. He said he couldn't promise me that. So I proceeded to take the car away. So he proceeded to tell me that he wasn't going to go to school. Or work, or do anything. What to do? I live in KY.

[snippyhead]

please send me a quick reply he has such a great future and hes throwing it away. its only him and I here no family in the this state no support system

[4eyedbuzzard]

Have you considered checking him into a drug rehab "center"?

[24-7-365]

Your story sounds familiar. Today I got suspended from my school for leaving school property so I could smoke a cigarette. My parents then found out I smoke pot and cigarettes. I am 16 years old. What did they do? Grounded me, took away various things and other such punishments.

My advice to you as a 16 year old somewhat in your son's position; give him the car back. Honestly, if my parents did not try to punish me in some way for anything I do that they don't agree with, I would have far less problems. You say you don't know what to do, but it's right in front of you. You took the car away and in response he said he won't go to school. Tell him you'll give him the car back if he goes to school. Most likely you'll want to say you have the right to take it away if he screws up in school, gets caught with pot, etc.

It makes sense to me... In order to *teach* teens, adults (parents, teachers, etc.) feel the need for punishment. When the punishment results in the teen not going to school (your son refusing without his car, me being suspended for going out for a cigarette [before classes started, mind you], etc.) it is not teaching them.

[FlyinHawk®]

Yeah, spoil the kid, teach him if he whines he'll get his way. Great philosophy.

If the kid is already experimenting with Pot he'll soon be on to other drugs, its better to nip this in the bud now and get him into counseling or as suggested a rehab and not enable him to use drugs or engage in illegal activities.

You do realize if cops were to ever come to your home and your son has pot there, you are all going down?

[LawResearcherMissy]

My advice to you as a 16 year old somewhat in your son's position; give him the car back. Honestly, if my parents did not try to punish me in some way for anything I do that they don't agree with, I would have far less problems.

Worst. Advice. Ever. Someone should hand your folks a Clue By Four with which to soundly beat some sense into you. Your problems are all of your own making, and with a 'tude like that, they're just going to get bigger.

Snippyhead, get your kid into Rehab ASAP. Yesterday if you can manage it. He doesn't go to school? Call the truant officer. He doesn't go to work? He'll suffer the consequences of that soon enough.

YOU are the Person In Charge. Don't give an inch.

[4eyedbuzzard]

Your story sounds familiar. Today I got suspended from my school for leaving school property so I could smoke a cigarette. My parents then found out I smoke pot and cigarettes. I am 16 years old. What did they do? Grounded me, took away various things and other such punishments.

My advice to you as a 16 year old somewhat in your son's position; give him the car back. Honestly, if my parents did not try to punish me in some way for anything I do that they don't agree with, I would have far less problems. You say you don't know what to do, but it's right in front of you. You took the car away and in response he said he won't go to school. Tell him you'll give him the car back if he goes to school. Most likely you'll want to say you have the right to take it away if he screws up in school, gets caught with pot, etc.

It makes sense to me... In order to *teach* teens, adults (parents, teachers, etc.) feel the need for punishment. When the punishment results in the teen not going to school (your son refusing without his car, me being suspended for going out for a cigarette [before classes started, mind you], etc.) it is not teaching them.

You fail to live up to your responsibilities and you lose those privileges that are dependent upon them. It's no different for adults. If you're caught smoking/possessing pot you risk losing your license, job, and more, such as federal education assistance. You have no right to smoke pot(at any age), and as a minor no right to smoke tobacco either.

There are consequences for your choices in life. As a teen/young adult sometimes learning this concept seems unfair as it confronts your assertation of your independence. The problem is that the learning of responsibility usually lags the discovery of privilege. Too bad. It's much better you learn about the relationship between responsibility and privilege now when the consequences are far less severe than those imposed by a court once you reach the age of majority.

[Happy Trails]

Honestly, if my parents did not try to punish me in some way for anything I do that they don't agree with, I would have far less problems.

LMAO

I really think this kid is being honest, really I do.

Wouldn't life be grand if there weren't any consequences for stupid behavior. I mean... who needs these kind of problems anyway? Seriously...

[24-7-365]

You can't bash a life style until you've tried it. I'm used to being criticized for my thoughts and ideas so I don't really care if you just want to insult me. And besides, anyone with half a brain won't get caught my police with pot.

[ilv3rambo]

well i am also 16 and i have also experinced with drugs..but honestly i wish ur advice could be how life was with no consequences but is not and i don't think itz right even tho i wish i could do whatever i want i can't ..i have never gotten caught but i have a boyfriend who has helped me stop and i haven't done drugs at all anymore...but i think there should be punishments.