I plan to take vacation sometime next summer for two weeks out of state with the kids. My ex is stationed overseas as he is in the military and can not afford to come back to the states at this point as well as have the kids travel overseas to visit him, but he says that I am not allowed to take the kids on vacations out of state without a signed "permission slip" from the courts stating that I can do this.
I have talked to my lawyer about this and my lawyer says that "he does not know what he is talking about". Basically, all I want to do is to travel out of state so that my kids can see their other grandparents and family members even if it means traveling a day and a half just to get there. Thus, I have looked through the divorce decree and it does not state anything about me having to sign a document stating that I can take my kids out of state on vacations. And so my ex claims that he will file kidnapping charges against me if I do this next summer. My sister also lives up in that area and my ex claims that he will file charges also against my sister and her husband, as her husband is also in the military.
Last year, Jan 2007, I did have issues with my ex almost not wanting to return the kids to me so I ended up going to the courts to make him bring the kids back....that is why it is most important to have something signed stating that there will be a change to the divorce decree, my ex and I just had a verbal agreement. In his eyes, I was claiming kidnapping charges against him in all aspect so I am thinking that he thinks he can get away with getting me with kidnapping charges.
Anyhow, we do have joint custody in this arrangement. I wonder though if I will have to go back to the consolidation courts to see if my ex is true what he says. I know I should also listen to my lawyer but I truly do not want to do something that will affect this siuation in the end. The kids are already affected by this....my son, who is the oldest, does not like to talk to his father on the phone anymore and even rejects seeing videos of him. I only hope that it will get better from here. So, if this has happend to any of you, please let me know what you think I should do at this point.