Can you tell me what are some of the reasons that judges would take into consideration for children wanting to change who they live with? State of Pennsylvania. Children are ages 10 and 6. My children have told me over and over again that they want to live with me, and not their mother. I pay child support and I am current. I have a decent job and a decent home. My ex will not agree to this because she doesn't want to give up the child support money. She is in a relationship with a guy who does not like children, so she is constantly dumping them off at a babysitter. She doesn't even spend Christmas, Thanksgiving or any other major holiday with them. She dumps them off at my mother's house and picks them up the next day. She currently does not have a job. She has been fired from 2 jobs in the last year because she is constantly calling off work. I know she does drugs with her new b/f, but would be hard to prove. What chance would I have of getting primary custody of my children?