Possible Abuse And Neglect

**wfpk4life** · 02-08-2008, 01:00 PM

I have been having issues with my ex. I must let you know it is a messy messy divorce.

Let me start by saying that for one full year. (she is on medicaid, son is disabled she works part time 3 days a week and gets SS for my son) when he has something called explosive behavior disorder. Now she was asked to get him glasses many times by me. She got glasses before he did. Which was completely wrong. Which I believe his was more important then hers. Well, I spent 189 dollars to get glasses that he himself picked out. Well, my ex and her said that they are too small for his head and that they told him he looks stupid with them. Then I asked her where his glasses are. He chewed them all up. Which when I looked at them they where a little not like how she said a there was nothing on them. Then she also told me that they are too strong for him. Clothes that we get for him we never see. Which makes me think that she does not want us getting stuff for him at all. Well, another time is that I went to my youngest school and when I was there normally my son never gets picked up at school always rides the bus. Here other comes along the other and waves at me. Of course my son later told me that was to piss me off. I have attempted to call on numerous occasions and each time no one would pick up or even let me talk with my youngest. Well, I drive by and they are home. This some times happens for a week then they decide to let talk to him. For one full year every time her and her other get into it. She tells me that she is giving me custody of my youngest son and she is leaving to Louisana. Then next day she changes her mind. I cried the last time cuz for one year she tells me this stuff and I thought the 4th time was going to be it and get him. That weekend as well the boys of ours was told to play outside all weekend. Not to come in. One weekend my oldest had it in with the other of hers and for 3 to 5 weeks refused to pick up my son when it was there turn. My ex does not have a drivers license so I or her other do the running around for my kids. Well, the weekend that it was hers. She "other" refused to pick up my kids. Which is my ex job not her others. The other slammed the door on my son when I dropped him off and his mother came out to help him carry things in.
My youngest has told me that they use a paddle which is the size of a cutting board on his bear bottom. She agreed verbally that she would not use it anymore. Few weeks later he told me that she spanked again. I asked her and she refused to tell me. Like the bruises on him because he moved the wrong way. My ex told me she did it. That weekend I told her that I would think of what to do about her. I get there and I tell her that I do not ever want then I get pushed out the door and was not allowed back in to speak with my ex. I told her that I am going to call DCF and let them know what happened. I get a call back stating that I put the bruises on him and that she has a nurse there that told her. The other is always in the middle of my ex and my business with the my ex and kids. No matter what. Recently my ex refused me to talk to my youngest. She grounded him from the phone and not allow me to talk to him. She said that she has every right to do what ever she wants as long as it is not past the legal boundries. During that time of 4 days I called to find out what happened to my other son oldest so I can get 2 sides of the story. She finally told me today. After one week of calling her she tells me the story. Refusing my phone calls to let me talk to me youngest. Also to find out what happened over the weekend with her my oldest. She told me that he was being bossy and lazy and she told him that either he helps and be part of the family and work or never come over again. My son was pissed when he came home. He said that he never wants to go over there again. Well, then we talked about what she told me. Then she told me that a cop told her that she has every right to do what ever she wants. Also my oldest has a cell phone in case of an emergancy or abuse or anything like that cuz they can not be trusted. Also a few years ago. My oldest son was slammed up againist a camper cuz he put his hands around my youngest son. This was done by the other. Another time I asked for a apology for my oldest cuz my ex wife called my son lazy and good for nothing just like his father. She told me she can say whatever she wants to our kids. Because they are hers. At the time she came out side and pushed me in front of my oldest. She has slapped me before because of I did not give my fiance a umbrella when it was raining. At this point I am boiled and pissed off to the freak'n max. I have no money. I don't know if I should attempt to get full custody...My oldest lives with my mom and dad since I was kicked out when I was younger. I do have a 2 bed room apartment. So that isn't a problem. Another time when she had the youngest. My youngest cut himself. She wanted my fiance to look at the cut before any decision was made. come to find out he needed 5 stitches. I should have reported her then to for neglect. She have problems one week while the other was away and my kids was with there mother. During that time for one week she did not have the kids take a bath. My ex allows my youngest ot list the messeges that is between her and I even if it is nasty or not. I am in florida pinellas county. Any help would be good thanks. Sorry so long.

**Xena** · 02-09-2008, 01:20 PM

Please edit your post down to short papragraphs with space between them. That much print so close together makes it difficult to read and understand. Thanks.

**wfpk4life** · 02-13-2008, 08:13 AM

Give me a few days. I will narrow it down...

**wfpk4life** · 02-13-2008, 11:05 AM

Let me at least ask this. Does the other person " mother" Have the right to ground the son so that he can not talk to the father at any point in time? We have joint custody and she has primary care of the youngest and also I have custody of our oldest.

**wfpk4life** · 02-13-2008, 11:58 AM

Let me start by saying that for one full year. (she is on medicaid, son is disabled she works part time 3 days a week and gets SS for my son) when he has something called explosive behavior disorder. Now she was asked to get him glasses many times by me. She got glasses before he did. Which was completely wrong. Which I believe his was more important then hers. Well, I spent 189 dollars to get glasses that he himself picked out. Well, my ex and her said that they are too small for his head and that they told him he looks stupid with them.

Then I asked her where his glasses are. He chewed them all up. Which when I looked at them they where a little not like how she said a there was nothing on them. Then she also told me that they are too strong for him. Clothes that we get for him we never see.

Which makes me think that she does not want us getting stuff for him at all. Well, another time is that I went to my youngest school and when I was there normally my son never gets picked up at school always rides the bus. Here other comes along the other and waves at me. Of course my son later told me that was to piss me off.

I have attempted to call on numerous occasions and each time no one would pick up or even let me talk with my youngest. Well, I drive by and they are home. This some times happens for a week then they decide to let talk to him. For one full year every time her and her other get into it. She tells me that she is giving me custody of my youngest son and she is leaving to Louisana.

Then next day she changes her mind. I cried the last time cuz for one year she tells me this stuff and I thought the 4th time was going to be it and get him. That weekend as well the boys of ours was told to play outside all weekend. Not to come in.

One weekend my oldest had it in with the other of hers and for 3 to 5 weeks refused to pick up my son when it was there turn. My ex does not have a drivers license so I or her other do the running around for my kids. Well, the weekend that it was hers. She "other" refused to pick up my kids. Which is my ex job not her others.

The other slammed the door on my son when I dropped him off and his mother came out to help him carry things in. My youngest has told me that they use a paddle which is the size of a cutting board on his bear bottom. She agreed verbally that she would not use it anymore. Few weeks later he told me that she spanked again.

I asked her and she refused to tell me. Like the bruises on him because he moved the wrong way. My ex told me she did it. That weekend I told her that I would think of what to do about her. I get there and I tell her that I do not ever want then I get pushed out the door and was not allowed back in to speak with my ex.

I told her that I am going to call DCF and let them know what happened. I get a call back stating that I put the bruises on him and that she has a nurse there that told her. The other is always in the middle of my ex and my business with the my ex and kids. No matter what. Recently my ex refused me to talk to my youngest. She grounded him from the phone and not allow me to talk to him.

She said that she has every right to do what ever she wants as long as it is not past the legal boundries. During that time of 4 days I called to find out what happened to my other son oldest so I can get 2 sides of the story. She finally told me today. After one week of calling her she tells me the story. Refusing my phone calls to let me talk to me youngest. Also to find out what happened over the weekend with her my oldest.

She told me that he was being bossy and lazy and she told him that either he helps and be part of the family and work or never come over again. My son was pissed when he came home. He said that he never wants to go over there again. Well, then we talked about what she told me. Then she told me that a cop told her that she has every right to do what ever she wants. Also my oldest has a cell phone in case of an emergancy or abuse or anything like that cuz they can not be trusted.

Also a few years ago. My oldest son was slammed up againist a camper cuz he put his hands around my youngest son. This was done by the other. Another time I asked for a apology for my oldest cuz my ex wife called my son lazy and good for nothing just like his father. She told me she can say whatever she wants to our kids.

Because they are hers. At the time she came out side and pushed me in front of my oldest. She has slapped me before because of I did not give my fiance a umbrella when it was raining. At this point I am boiled and pissed off to the freak'n max. I have no money.

I don't know if I should attempt to get full custody...My oldest lives with my mom and dad since I was kicked out when I was younger. I do have a 2 bed room apartment. So that isn't a problem. Another time when she had the youngest. My youngest cut himself.

She wanted my fiance to look at the cut before any decision was made. come to find out he needed 5 stitches. I should have reported her then to for neglect. She have problems one week while the other was away and my kids was with there mother. During that time for one week she did not have the kids take a bath.

My ex allows my youngest ot list the messeges that is between her and I even if it is nasty or not. I am in florida pinellas county. Any help would be good thanks. Sorry so long.. Hope the spaces help.

**Xena** · 02-14-2008, 02:25 PM

Your situation is complicated enough that you really need an attorney to assist you. You can call the Florida Bar Lawyer Referral Service at 1-800-342-8011 for a referral to an attorney.