Do I Have The Right To Communicate With My Biological Mother?

[tam2010]

Okay i live in kansas and i was born in texas. my real mom gave birth to me and gave me to her sister. she put her sisters husbands name on the birth certificate even tho he is not my dad. her sister and her husband got a divorce and we moved to kansas. I never see me “dad” the guys name on my birth certificate and she won’t let me see my real mom. Is this leagal? I am unhappy and wanted to get emancipated but it seems that this is very hard and unlikely to work. I found my real mom and we have been talking with out the knowlage of my “aunt”. What rights does my real mom have to me if any? And is there anything I can do to get out of the house?

[tam2010]

am i going to get a reply....

[cyjeff]

First, what was the agreement between your mom and your bio mom? If your mom adopted you, then your bio mom has no more legal right to dictate your future than your postman.

Second, on a personal note from an adoptive father, lose the tude.

Your mother is the one that has, from your birth, cared for you financially, emotionally and legally. She is the one that stayed with you when you were sick, cheered you when you did well, and punished you when you didn't do well.

Yes, punishment is a sign of love. If we parent's didn't care, we wouldn't bother correcting your behavior.

Before you decide to kick the person that loves you most in all the world in the teeth, think about what you are doing.

[tam2010]

There wasn't an agreement at all, and the mom i live with now never legally adopted me.

I don't have a "tude" i'm sure that since your an adoptive dad then you wouldn't do some of the stuff to our kid that is beeing done. As for the finacial side of things she put out gas bill in my name with out me knowing and i'm only 16. She did this when i was 14. She stoped paying it and now we owe about 400 dollars on it, also i pay out water bill and i pay for my own food and necesities. I for one don't call that her supporting me.

I've thought about was i am "doing" and i think we would actualy get along better if we were apart. Shes not punishing me buy physicaly abuseing and emotional abuseing me. Punishment is grounding and taking things away which is a completly different thing.

[cyjeff]

There wasn't an agreement at all, and the mom i live with now never legally adopted me.

I don't have a "tude" i'm sure that since your an adoptive dad then you wouldn't do some of the stuff to our kid that is beeing done. As for the finacial side of things she put out gas bill in my name with out me knowing and i'm only 16. She did this when i was 14. She stoped paying it and now we owe about 400 dollars on it, also i pay out water bill and i pay for my own food and necesities. I for one don't call that her supporting me.

I've thought about was i am "doing" and i think we would actualy get along better if we were apart. Shes not punishing me buy physicaly abuseing and emotional abuseing me. Punishment is grounding and taking things away which is a completly different thing.

First, calm down.

The moment I saw you say "aunt" and emancipation, I read the tude.

And it is obvious I wasn't far wrong.

If your biomom never signed you over for adoption, it makes the process more likely, but not much more so.

You see, a judge will assume that the person that has raised you so far is the one you should remain with. That judge will also review why your bio mom decided she couldn't care for you at birth or in the 16 years since.

People can't just swoop into your life and spirit you away. If your bio mom has been in jail or on drugs or something, you will never be taken from your current home to live with your bio mom... especially when you aren't abused.

[tam2010]

My bio mom was never on drugs or in jail it wasn't anything like that. As for abuse im not going into detail about that on here,by i do have proof and also witnesses, and the only reason i got an attitude was because it seemed to me that you yourself had one. Maybe i'm wrong but that is besides the point.

I don't want to be seept away or anything like that i just don't want to be in the situation i am in. I have a job and am making enough money to support myself which i am at this point almost doing. In my opionion i would be better off. I don't see if she is my guardian and "mother" why isn't she acting like one. I am fully capable of taking care of my self. I'm also not saying i want to live with my real mom maybe a friend or get my own place for that matter. I'm paying half the rent my mother should be paying for anyway.

[tam2010]

Also, when i said that punishment isn't physical and emotional abuse i meant that she should be punishing me by doing these things she SHOULD be taking my stuff away and grounding me....

[tam2010]

sorry...she shouldnt be abuseive...i keep typeing it wrong.