I need some help with steps my husband and I should take in disestablishing paternity.
My husband's first marriage ended without children, but prior to the divorce (while they were separated) his ex-wife became pregnant by another man. The pregnancy was not planned for reasons I cannot name here, so the real father was never put on the birth certificate. The ex-wife (still holding my husband's last name) put my husband as the child's father. My husband found out when the child was about 4 years old and became upset, but never requested his name be removed only because he felt bad for the little girl and his ex promised never to go after him for child support. He has never acknowleged her as child and has never had a relationship with her (they live in 2 different states).
Well, we just recently got married and while we were dating I adviced him many times to take care of this, but there wasn't much I could do then because I wasn't in a wife's position.
For the record, my husband is one of those nice guys who doesn't see the damage he could be causing that little girl and our future by not nipping this in the bud.
Now, I want this taken care of and I'm not sure what steps we can take. I told him that I wouldn't be worried about it if A) She was truly his biological daughter or B) If he actually had a relationship with her (which he doesn't).
The girl is 9 years old. What legal rights do we have? And how can we go about taking care of this in the least messy way possible?