Hello. I am a US Citizen residing in South Korea. I will be returning to my home state of Wisconsin in the near future. I have a 4.5 month old son. His bio dad (US Citizen) and I met here in Korea. He is from NY. He and I split up when I was 2 months pregnant. He did give me some money before I had my son for medical and other costs, but stopped a month before I gave birth. We are both civilians.
He and I are not married. He is not on the BC. In Korea you can put the dad's name on the BC if he is not present at the birth (he was not); however, I chose not to because of a possible difficulty with obtaining a passport and being able to leave the country. My son has his US Citizenship and passport.
Now...I'm not sure if this is the correct place to post and if I am redirected I apologize in advance. My ex has never seen my son, although I have tried to get him to. I called him when I returned from the hospital and then didn't hear from him for another month, after which I asked for him to sign a written agreement regarding visitation. The last time I heard from him was in August. He has since changed jobs and disconnected his phone. I've sent him an email asking for him to see his son and to pay some support for his care. He has never responded. I have posted on a website in this country asking for information on his whereabouts, and was told he was still in Korea.
I contacted the US Embassy here and was told they can do nothing, that I must take action when I return to the US. I will be returning to Wisconsin, but he is from NY. I have his passport no. and SSN. I am wondering about establishing paternity as well as getting a child support order. I realize that this forum is about custody but this is a complicated interstate/international situation. I would like to have child support for my son. Does anyone have any advice on how to proceed with this? Thank you for reading.