Jailtime might feel like you are being punished too, and I suppose in a way you are. However, thousands of dead women and children before you caused the system to take the stance that it does because research and case histories by the thousands PER YEAR show that incarceration for the offender is often the ONLY way that victims (that's you AND your children) can be safe and may have the option (even an unwanted one) to do something OTHER than stay shacked up with an abuser. I know it sucks to look at a future where you might financially "lose" much - however, if he's being held accountable for his actions at the hand of the state (for decisions that HE MADE), you'll be alive and well to move on to a situation where you are not dependent on someone willing to commit violence against you. I cannot urge you strongly enough to contact resources in your area including your local domestic violence program to get assistance. Your situation is NOT a unique one, and they have helped many others through the exact kinds of problems, financial woes, and obstacles that you are faced with now. No one expects that you'll be just fine and dandy on your own with his financial support suddenly out of the picture; that's not realistic. BUT assistance in many forms is available if you are willing to look for it.