I Want My Ex To Stop Paying Child Support

[annjmn]

My name is Anna. I am a mother of 2 girls, 5 and 2 and a baby boy who is now 1. I am married to a wonderful man who has taken care of me and my daughters for their whole lives and we now have a son together. The father of my 2 girls is paying child support because there is an order for it. He lives in another state. I have a great job and so does my husband. We take care of all the bills just fine and my kids have everything that they need. On the other hand, my ex, the father of my 2 girls is not doing well. He has another family ( a baby boy ) that he is unable to care for . His fiancee cannot work because no one can take care of their son and they can barely make ends meet. Their son is on Medicaid and they are on government assistance. He lost his job and they even took child support out of his unemployment check. I do not want to do this. ME and my girls are very well taken care of without the child support money and I am taking it away from a family that needs it a lot more than i do. Me and him and his fiancee are in great terms and we have a good relationship. He cannot afford to travel to see the girls. They can send money without the order whenever they can and they are doing better. I want to STOP the child support payments. I do not need them, Me and my husband make enough for our family and it is unfair to them. How can I put a stop to it and be able to sleep at night?? I cant live in peace knowing my family is doing well and his family (my daughters baby brother) is not. I hope their is a way and it would only be the fair thing to do. He cant even afford to travel and see the girls. He has never seen my second daughter and he has not seen the first one since she was 2. He owes a lot of money in debt and they only have one car that keeps breaking down and they cant afford to fix it or get another one. PLEASE I NEED TO STOP THE CHILD SUPPORT. I NEED SOMEONE TO TELL ME HOW CAN I DO THIS!!

[Neal1421]

My name is Anna. I am a mother of 2 girls, 5 and 2 and a baby boy who is now 1. I am married to a wonderful man who has taken care of me and my daughters for their whole lives and we now have a son together. The father of my 2 girls is paying child support because there is an order for it. He lives in another state. I have a great job and so does my husband. We take care of all the bills just fine and my kids have everything that they need. On the other hand, my ex, the father of my 2 girls is not doing well. He has another family ( a baby boy ) that he is unable to care for . His fiancee cannot work because no one can take care of their son and they can barely make ends meet. Their son is on Medicaid and they are on government assistance. He lost his job and they even took child support out of his unemployment check. I do not want to do this. ME and my girls are very well taken care of without the child support money and I am taking it away from a family that needs it a lot more than i do. Me and him and his fiancee are in great terms and we have a good relationship. He cannot afford to travel to see the girls. They can send money without the order whenever they can and they are doing better. I want to STOP the child support payments. I do not need them, Me and my husband make enough for our family and it is unfair to them. How can I put a stop to it and be able to sleep at night?? I cant live in peace knowing my family is doing well and his family (my daughters baby brother) is not. I hope their is a way and it would only be the fair thing to do. He cant even afford to travel and see the girls. He has never seen my second daughter and he has not seen the first one since she was 2. He owes a lot of money in debt and they only have one car that keeps breaking down and they cant afford to fix it or get another one. PLEASE I NEED TO STOP THE CHILD SUPPORT. I NEED SOMEONE TO TELL ME HOW CAN I DO THIS!!

You could go down to the court house and file to have the support order terminated, that is, if you have never been on any type of state aid.

Or you could just send the money he sends to you, back to him and his family. It's up to you.

[aaron]

Some states make it difficult to stop support, or to deviate from the state's support formula.

[annjmn]

who do i have to contact to stop support? The attorney generals office? the courts?? thanks in advance to anyone who answers!

[insync1]

I'm not an attorney, but I wonder if there's a friendly way out since your intentions are honorable. For example, simply cash the checks and reimburse him. This way it still looks to the state, etc. that he's meeting his requirements.