Trying To Do The Right Thing

[Seasons]

My husband and I separated for two years. WE are working on reconsiliation at present. We have four children and the forth was not born yet when we separated. My husband worked all the time and had a seizure three months after separation (due to stress and overwork). During his physical break down, he contacted a woman whom I will call "woman" on the internet. They met a few times and had sex. She told him that he did not have to wear a condom as she was unable to conceive. Two weeks later she phoned him and told him she thought she could be pregnant. Husband is in a panic. He is about to take an leave from work as he is now emotionally breaking down. I do not know how conversation went, however he is a 'nice' guy. She and he have no more contact. He gets counselling. A year goes by. WE are talking about reconcillig. He has been ever present for the kids and takes on a job where he is home. He gets a phone call as he is planning to move back. It is woman. She would like to know if he is interested in meeting his son. And would he like to introduce the baby to our four children. It is up to him. Call back. No strings. Want no money. Husband is training out of town for new job. Comes home and gets offer for better job where home even more, better pay but move twelve hours away by car. We all decide is best for us all Getting ready to sell, move and husband is getting ready to come home. He is in more training and is gone for a month. Mail arrives. Woman wants full custody of child and for husband to pay full support. We can't afford full support and are filing for hardship. We obviously would still be responsible for whatever is decided that we pay. This could mean no more Christmas...such is the consequences of irresponsibility. We are moving to area much more expensive cost of living than here. Can't even afford same type of house. We decide this....paternity test is a must. If it is positive, we need to be fully involved. Supply of money is not parenting. We would like to be able to pick up child and take to where we live and care for and bring back. We can arrange travel. Our children's lives are going to be impacted one way or the other. Healing is when things are brought to the light. When we all come together and get to know each other. Father and son, kids and child...all would be better off. Is this even viable? What are your legal thoughts on this? Thank you.

[aaron]

If the paternity test shows that your husband is the child's father, he can request visitation rights.

[Seasons]

Does that mean that visitation is his only right, or is joint custody a possibility or not based on him not being in a relationship with this person? Thank you.

[Dad2]

Whether or not he was in a relationship is irrelevant. If he's the bio dad, he has the same rights as any other father. I would definitely get the paternity test done asap.