Re: Child Support for an 18-Year-Old in Indiana
first thing is, there is no we in this story. It is between your husband and his ex-wife. I understand the we but in the legal sense, there is no we. Any support that would be due would be from your husband to the ex or vice versa.
Now, one would think that if a court order were in place to pay support, your husband would know about it. They do let you know what you are to pay when the enter such an order. Did he pay support before the youngster came to your house? If not, there may very well not be a support order. He can call the friend of the courts, most likely in the county that mom lived in when they seperated, to see if there is anything ordered.
as to past support from her to the father, not likely. If nothing was sought before, retroactive orders are not typical.
Now, as to support for an 18 y.o. Again. not real likely but possible. You are no longer a minor at 18 and typically support stops at 18 unless the courts required the NCP to pay for or during college but going in and asking for it now if it had not been through the courts before, very unlikely.
the one thing that is a bit telling is this:
If he was paying before, I would suspect an order was in place. Now the problem is, if there is an order in place and he has not paid for the past 3 years, he would be 3 years in arrears and be required to pay mom for this. That is a huger reason the side deal that he made should not ever be used. If custody and support is wanting to be changed by mutual agreement, it should go through the courts.
and mom is saying we will have to start paying support again.
now, mom may be able to forgive past support UNLESS she was on any state aid. then the courts are going to want their money. It also does not sound like mom would be too forgiving should there be arrearages.
I am not an attorney and any advice is not to be construed as legal advice. You might even want to ignore my advice. Actually, there are plenty of real attorneys that you might want to ignore as well.