Here's one you all have probably never heard...please help! My husband and I live in Hawaii. My husband has custodial custody of oldest son(just turned 18), and ex-wife has custodial of youngest son (13);both parents share joint legal. The bio-mom was initially awarded custody of both boys after filing an erroneous TRO against the father, but case was dismissed due to lack of evidence that any physical/emotional abuse took place. However,ex-wife was able to force supervised visits on their father,until again the judge dismissed that as well due to lack of evidence. Approx 6mos after she was awarded full custody of both boys, she kicks out the oldest one because he tells her he doesn't agree with her having an affair with her boss and her wanting to move in with him while she was still married to his father. Hawaii is a no-fault state, so affair had no bearing on divorce/custody even though my husband had proof of her infidelity. She eventually files a motion to allow the oldest to come live with us, but refuses the youngest from doing the same, thus seperating the boys, and the courts allow it ! So now here's the problem...for the past year, the youngest wants to come live with us because his mother refuses to allow his father "reasonable visitation" that's stated in the custody order. For some reason, this judge did not specify days/dates/holidays,etc regarding visitation, but left it to the discretion of ex-wife to determine what is "reasonable visitation". This of course gives her free reign to consistently deny my husband of his paternal rights. She is in direct violation regarding the joint legal part though, since she has NEVER advised my husband in any way regarding anything to do with his healthcare, school,etc. We also have proof of her falsifying school documents listing her boss/boyfriend as stepfather,although they are not married, as the contact person for emergencies. My husband has had numerous phone calls/meetings with her trying to get a more defined schedule in place, all to no avail. Anytime these issues are brought up, she threatens to take us back to court. She is currently trying to sue my husband and I for equity in the house that she signed away at the time of the divorce, and just filed a motion for more child support in July..what's interesting about this, is that's when her alimony was up. She has continuously lied to her attorneys and the courts by filing false documents over-estimating my husband's income so that she could get more money. My husband has documented proof of her previous attorney's unethical court filings, but to make matters worse, he is now a family court judge in the same district ! The list goes on and on about all the things that she has done, but what's frustrating is that she wanted out of her marriage to be with someone else, but my husband is now suffering for her sins, and the family courts here in Hawaii seem to do nothing! Are we able to file harrassment charges on her and force her to pay for our legal bills every time we have to take her back to court when she doesn't comply with anything? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks for your help..