My husband and I have joint custody of our 4 year old daughter in NY state. I have physical custody meaning she lives with me, he has every other weekend overnight. One of the things that he wanted stipulated in the custody agreement was that I couldn't move out of NY unless given permission by the judge. Everything was going smoothly until HE MOVED to Texas with his girlfriend, now he wants me to send her to Texas to visit. I don't really feel comfortable sending my 4 year old across the country. She very rarely goes any where without me. And I feel that he doesn't really want anything to do with her, since his move about 3 and a half months ago, he only calls her maybe once every two weeks. Also before he left he tried taking her from me. he got temporary custody by making up stupid accusations about me. two weeks later i got her back, we were suppose to go to trial because he insisted what he was saying was true but the day of the trial he didn't show up, and the case was dropped. He is a very vengeful person. I guess what i'm looking for is any info on visitation laws in NY when the non custodial parent lives out of state. or any advice as to what steps i should take or let him make the first move? We have been in and out of court about 5 times within the past year and i can't keep spending money on a lawyer.