Should I Take On Three More Children?

[good hearted woman]

Okay- I'm new here. I got a very unpleasant call today.
Let me start off by saying I'm 25 and have two great kids. Im divorced and doing very well.
My older sister has kind of "given up" her three to her ex-husband and I found out today the state (Oklahoma) has taken them away and released them in to Dad's mother's custody. I know they need more than what they have been given. They need a loving home. I haven't contacted an attorney yet- but need to know what happens if biological parents wont pay child support. I dont think either of them can hold a job. Does the state treat Guardians like Foster Parents and help with the cost of child care, etc? This is very important and I just wanted a little help before the rest of our family gets together tomorrow and determines where we are going to ask these children to be placed. The father's family has been around the kids all their lives- but until a "case worker" called me today- I had no idea how bad off these kids really were. I know I have a clean home and will give them support. I just cannot financially raise her three without any support. I cant stand the thought of taking away from my two. But really really cant sit back and watch neice and nephews be shifted around the system thinking no one loves them- when we really really want to help.

[good hearted woman]

Can anyone give advice on this issue? If it means anything- our side of the family (who all live in the same town) are considering each taking in one child until the adjustment is easier. This way the children don't get really seperated. Any advice is really really appreciated.
Thanks!

[aaron]

It isn't clear whether at this point the children are voluntarily in the custody of the paternal grandmother, or if this is represents in intra-family placement during the pendency of child protective proceedings. If it is the former, you should be able to take temporary custody of the children by agreement. If it is the latter, the protective services agency and court overseeing the proceedings would have to approve, which can be difficult if you are operating across state lines.

If you receive a guardianship through a court, you should be able to also obtain child support from the parents.

It may be helpful to speak to the case worker to figure out what legal proceedings are underway, and if they seem receptive to your idea about how to place the children. Once you know that, it will be easier to figure out what to do next.

[good hearted woman]

The grandmother was the only family the DHS could contact. We cannot find mother. Dad is in rehab. The case worker is the one who asked me if I would be willing take in the children. I dont think the grandmother has suitable living situation. Thanks for your advice. I will be calling her on Monday to get more details.