How can I best work with this attorney to make sure my case, now 10 months in the legal system (and even longer in the making), proceeds diligently toward a conclusion?

Just a little background. This case has been going on now since 10/04. My wife is basically trying to punish me by refusing to negotiate a fair separation of assets. (No children, No infidelity, no abuse, she is recovering alcoholic, arguably 100k in marital assets; 9 year marraige.) Even the mediator back in May/05 was surprised at what she was asking for and gave me a number that I eventually offered. She escalated her demands to the point that negotiations broke down. I then hired an attorney (litigator-type). (Initial discovery was done back in 2004 with a previous attorney that I kept up to mediation.) I paid new attorney $3500 retainer and gave him all filings and financial information that I had neatly summarized. During the first four weeks with him I sent a new piece of information each week that he had requested during our initial consultation. I heard nothing from him for a month. At that point I sent him a list of questions via email and did not receive a response. So I followed up with a phone call. He repeated to me the same thing he said at our initial consultation and a few days later I got a nice answer to all my questions via email. Since that time 3 weeks ago I have asked him basically follow-up questions and the status of this letter (proposal) to opposing counsel. One email per week followed up with a phone call. No new information has been forthcoming. I had shopped attornies and he was recommended by another attorney which I respected and was told he was formerly the head of the county's bar association. However, I feel I'm getting the run around. How can I best work with this attorney to make sure my case, now 10 months in the legal system (and even longer in the making), proceeds diligently toward a conclusion. Thanks for your help in advance. ITDH