Restraining Order Issues

**trickyricky** · 04-17-2007, 06:46 PM

I have an ex who will not go away. I was involved w/ her for some time. Now that I am happily married w/ children, she is out for revenge. I've told her not to contact me anymore, even changed my cell & home phone numbers, but that hasn't stopped her. She has found a way to put my personal life on the internet. She has posted slander & lies on the internet about what we had. She is claiming that she is/was pregnant, has harrassed my wife. Now she has gotten to the point that she is having her friend do the dirty work for her. I guess she feels that if SHE is not doing the deed & others are, it's okay. I've filed an incident report & went to file a restraining order but I am nervous that she'll file an order on me making up lies & then I could lose my license to carry a weapon (something I need for work).

We (my wife & I) have a baby web site for our children & have a special link on the site that tell's us who has viewed the site & how many times. This ex of mine has viewed our children 707 times since 4/11 - to date. I have the emails of the scary photos that she sent my wife, I have the emails that she has admitted to fabricating a pregnancy to try to get "revenge". I have the post that she made on a web page that proves she is slandering my name, along w/ her myspace page of photos of her & I together (when we were) as well as slandering remarks. She has contacted my wife's friends trying to "be-friend" them & then tell them lies. The part that infuriates me is that she has gone as far as to get a copy of my marriage certificate (that has our paren't maiden names, something that can easily cause identity theft if used the wrong way), and copies of our home deed & public profiles. I realize that information of that nature is public record, but the fact that she's pulled this information scares my wife.

I due to go to court tomorrow to file the restraining order. I want to file this before she files on me as I am sure this is her pattern & I know that she could due some damage (w/ lies of course). Again, my concern is that if I file an order of protection, and she files back, will I lose my right to carry a weapon? Again, this is something I need to work and w/ out it could lose my home.

What is the right thing to do? Do I file? Do I not? Do I wait but then she files one on false accusations? Do I let it go & allow her to continue to harrass me, my family, friends & wife? This woman seems possible of almost anything & I am not sure what's the best thing to do.

Need advice...

Thanks
~M

**Mr. Knowitall** · 04-18-2007, 12:28 PM

It is possible that if you are subject to a personal protection order, you will not be allowed to carry a firearm. You need to decide for yourself what you wish to try to do to stop her conduct.

**trickyricky** · 04-20-2007, 05:07 PM

The part that bothers me is that why if SHE is the one who is harrassing should I have to give up my 1st right which is a part of my job & if I have to have a firearm for my job, that doesn't exactly work for me to lose it, KWIM?

So basically, regardless I am screwed. I have to get an order of protection b/c of what she's doing to me & my family but I lose my job b/c of my proceedings?

Sigh...