I'm from Montana, as is my daughter's biological father. We broke up shortly after she was born, and I went and got a lawyer. I got court ordered child support and also a parenting plan that states he can only see her 1 hr. per day in my residence.
Since I got everything into the courts, I have gotten an amazing fiance and moved to Nevada. He loves my daughter like his own, and takes great care of us. My daughter just turned 1, and her father is about $9000 behind on child support. I have the Child Support Enforcement division after him, but he keeps moving and changing jobs. 2 Months ago, he contacted me (after not speaking to me for 6 months and told me he was moving to Nevada to be a part of his daughters life. I have gone out on the limb to try and allow him to establish a relationship with his daughter, but he refuses to help pay for ANYTHING! I have allowed him to have my daughter by himself for a couple of hours, and she comes home starving because he doesn't feed her (even though I give him food to feed her)... everytime I seem to go out on the limb, he takes total advantage of it--bringing her home late, driving around town to show her off to his friends like she's some sort of trophy, taking her swimming when she's sick without ASKING me.. And then the other day he made a comment about her two front teeth coming through saying, "Mannnnn, you have some UGLY teeth!!".....proving to me that his love is superficial.
The only reason I continue to let him see her, is because I know when my daughter gets older she will want to know who he is.. but the more that time goes on, the more I just don't think it is in her best interest. With the way things are going (he runs from his bills, taxes, child support), he's going to end up in jail. His rude remarks about her teeth could absolutely destroy her self esteem as she gets older.
What is my next step? When my fiance and I get married, I would love for him to be able to adopt her, but I know her biological father won't sign over his rights--he's a narcissist, so it's a pride thing. I know the courts say that he can see her for 1 hr. a day, but they also say he is obligated to support her financially as well.
I'm also scared that if something were to happen to me, that he would get her--and lord knows he can't even support himself right now, let alone her. Should I write up a will & how do I go about doing that?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time!