Employer Wants My Resignation

[lisalisa49]

After working for a private school for almost eight years, my boss called me in at the end of June '06 and told me "it would be a good idea for you to find another job". For the school year 2005-06, I was an aide to a teacher who I had known, but was not really close to, for many years. This teacher and I also happen to share the same circle of friends. I now know this was not a good idea. Things went well at first, we worked well in the classroom and we also had a great time hanging out, partying, going out on the town to places like clubs and bars, weekend girls' trips,...etc. We would party alot(which included drinknig and smoking marijuana). She always made it into church every Sunday morning somehow, and she is well known and liked in the church and school comminties. I am not really into the church thing. When I met my boyfriend and we started spending more time together, I wasn't into the kind of single-style partying we had been doing for four of five months. Our relationship began fall apart- in and out of the classroom. She would scream at me in front of the students(5-year-olds), and critisize my work in front of parents. She would often giving me specific directions about work I was to, and after I would finish, she tell me what I did was totally wrong and she would say she had given me different instructions. I wittnessed her flip out me times, never in front of an adult, but often in front of the students. There was one particular instance where she claimed I had misplaced a large box of her supplies, and had me look underneth pieces of paper for it. Work became a nightmare for me. I was a part time employee, but began staying at work almost the whole day in order to attempt to get all the work done that she wanted me to do. There were many days I would work 10 hours, and at times even more(all recorded on my time card). I also want to note that as an hourly employee, I was never paid for any overtime. There were occations were she would even bring classroom work for me to do after work when we would get together with all our friends. I found out she constantly told our friends things like I was worthless at work and don't do anything, that I never stayed late, and she could have gotten more done if I wasn't there. I now know why my friends laughed and made jokes when I told them work was stressing me out. My work had become a joke to people I knew, and no one had any reason to doubt her because she is the church attending Catholic school teacher who wouldn't just make that stuff up. I have never done so much for any teacher, including personnal errands and non-school things she needed, in addition to all the things that I did in the classroom like creating hundreds of worksheets for her that she used daily her lessons. I feared she could effect my employment, because she had asked me several times "so, do you think you are going to be working here next year?". I just kept doing my job. I did tell some people throughout the year about the things that happened with the teacher, because I feared she say things to the principal(someone she was close to through the school and church community) that would cost me my job. Even though it was hard, I did my job and got through the school year. Thankfully enough, there were some other people in our circle of friends that also saw some of the bahavior I had seen, and as a result, most of out friends didn't hang out with her anymore. The teacher was very angry, she approached several of our friends and blamed me that people didn't like her anymore and that she was not included in group activities. She got another job at another school and I never thought I would hear from her again. Four weeks after the school year had ended, the teacher contacted at least four people I knew and told them she met with the principal and hoped that I wouldn't be mad because of what they talked about in this meeting. Within a week, the principal called me and told me it would be a good idea if I would another job. Since I knew the principal had spoke with the teacher, I was afraid to even ask, I was just in shock. After I lost my job, the teacher began to tell people that I was fired because I had and drug and alcohol problem. She had went into where a bar falling-down-drunk and screaming that I have a drug and alcohol problem and thats why I was fired in front of everyone in the bar. It has been humiliating. Even though we both partied together, I was the one who had my reputation destroyed. My life has a mess since I have lost my job, and have stuggled with depression and used drugs to self medicate. I have not been able to find work, the school has been telling prospective employers they do not recommend that they hire me. I want to note although I did party, I never did anything before or during work. I also never written up for any infraction in any of my eight years of work. I was also left alone each day, up until my last day- by the teacher, with the students. This teacher is still very much revered in the community. I feel like my life has been destroyed. I have been in a treatment program for three months and am dealing with the last year and a half of my life. A relative of mine recently contacted the school and asked about my temination, and the school told her all the details of why they fired me, even though they never spoke to me about these things. I just want to put all this behind me, but it just won't go away. I want to know if anyone has any advice for me if there is anything I can do?

[Mr. Knowitall]

They don't use paragraphs at this private school? Can you please present a concise version with paragraphs, as it is really unpleasant to try to decipher a giant block of text.