I have a 4 year old who's father has never been around. My son has resided in my care from day one, his father has never had any responsibility whatsoever. For the first year I encouraged a stable relationship, but the father was never involved, and gradually withdrew himselve from our lives. This had happened for many reasons; mariguanna abuse, an unstable living environment, ect... I have gotten remarried 2 years ago, and my husband is practically the only father my son has known. After 2 years of absolutely no contact from the biological father he is taking me to court for sole custody. My question is, what is reasonable access you offer to a complete stranger who is angry and an amotional wreck? Please help, I have court in 2 days!!