Ex-girlfriend doesn't want the father in the baby's life

paulie · #1 07-06-2005, 04:10 AM

so my x is pregent with my kid. and i really want to be in my babys life. but she is saying that she doesnt want me in the babys life. i dont know what to do. we are still really young me being 18 and her being 17. no one thinks what she is doing is right. and i dont know what to do. all i do is cry at night cuz that is all that i can think about. im a great kid going to school. all she does is lie. and her parients do drugs at her house something that i dont want my baby to be/see around. what should i do? i feel so help less my mom and dad are going to help me fight.

aaron · #2 07-06-2005, 07:12 AM

You will likely need to commence a paternity action, and seek court-ordered custody or parenting time. It will likely benefit you to consult a family lawyer now, as there may well be steps you should be taking (e.g., providing support for the pregnant mother) which will later help your case.

paulie · #3 07-06-2005, 09:16 PM

how do u provied soport for a pregnet mother if she doesnt want u in the kids life? and for some one that doesnt want to see me? like i will do what ever it takes but there is not much that i can do when she doesnt want to see me or talk to me. i think all she wants is the baby and she doesnt want me in her life. im so confused.

aaron · #4 07-06-2005, 10:01 PM

If you are ordered to pay child support, you pay it. Otherwise you will end up with an arrearage - and it is surprising how fast a support arrearage can get out of control.

If you are granted parenting time (visitation), and your ex- interferes with it, you try to get assistance from the court to enforce the parenting time order.

paulie · #5 07-07-2005, 05:26 AM

so if im alowed to see my child and be with my child then i dont have to pay child support? how does the court diside if u can or cant see ur baby? thank u so much for all ur help

aaron · #6 07-07-2005, 08:58 AM

Child support and parenting time are separate issues.

If you gain primary custody of the child, such as the child lives with you most of the time, you would not ordinarily have to pay child support.

paulie · #7 07-08-2005, 01:51 AM

what does the court look for in who get cus of the baby? she is saying that she wont even let me see my baby unless i take her to court.