[clfgnr@yahoo.com]

I was with a girl back in 1993 who was 3 mos pregnant when I met her.I was her way out of the foster home system and now I can say I was used and abused.She had the baby and I did sign a birth certificate only for one reason to make her happy.I can still hear her fake cry when I told her I don't think I can do this.So what did I do I did it anyway.I never signed an aknowledgement of paternty though.We were married 4 days after child was born and 1 wk later she went looking for real father and it totally broke my heart.Soon after that she took off with an ex-boyfriend who was a drug addict.2 mos later I allowed her to come back home.2 years went by and she thought a manger at Mcdonalds made more money than a truck driver and took off this time for good only to get me for everything in the house and a $19,000 settlement I was supposed to get for an injury.I was in so much shock and very depressed that I missed court hearings and I screwed up there I know.Then a couple of years ago she got in contact with me and said if I was to sign a paper stating she could move to California that in return she would sign a paper stating I would no longer be obligated for past or future child support.She lied not only to me but the attorney general also and I don't understand why he didn't do anything about it but he didn't.From what Iv'e been reading on the internet it would seem I can get this taken care of I have proof about the lie and the child also knows I'm not his biological father and they are in contact with real father I have heard from even her family members.She has 2 other kids by different dads and I did my best to warn them but they didn't listen as I didn't.I have no idea where they are but they always see to find me.Now since paternity was not established like it was supposed to be,wouldn't I still be considered a presumed father.And wouldn't I be able to get this thrown out because we wasn't married and no acknowledgement of paternity was signed.Don't I still have any type of rights.I really thought over the years she would have thanked me for what I did for her instead of being Satan.$23,000 in back child support and me having a wife and 3 kids living in hell from this monster and everytime I have talked to her she calls me every name in the book and so does child the child I feel like their getting away with murder and the state is allowing her to continue to rape me I never have had the money for an attorney and still to this day I don't.I finally realize this is not going to go away and I need help.Can anyone tell me how I can do this and with this settlement coming in from breaking my back on the job.I finally will have the financial capabilities of getting this demon off y back.

[Mr. Knowitall]

You were a grown-up, you made the choice to sign the application for a birth certificate as the child's father, and you chose not to try to get the issue of paternity resolved in your favor either when you divorced or when she sought child support. It's a big hole you dug for yourself. Consult an Illinois family lawyer to see if there's a way out of it.

[clfgnr@yahoo.com]

I realize I was a grown man,but I was a grown man that was ignorant to the laws.I Also was in a state of mental breakdown, at the time of the divorce.I really took it hard.It's really not a very good excuse,but I pray to God I never ever go thru that again.I ran as fast as I could trying to outrun my pain,and as I was running she was planning to ruin me for years to come.I lived a very sheltered life and I had no idea there were people in the world that could be so cruel.After all I did.I do not recollect any child support hearing,although that doesn't mean it didn't happen.I was on the road drivivg a truck and no one could locate me at that time.This is to the best of what I remember.I have tried my best to block out alot of that part of my life.I just ask that everyone that reads this will pray for God's will to prevail,as I will do the same for anyone going thru the same as I.I find it hard to believe,when I get the opportunity to represent myself in front of the courts,they would rule in her favor,but I never count my chickens before they hatch.This is the only thing that is hindering me and taking it's toll on both me and my wives lives.This was a big mistake and it is not a fun ride.