I changed my mind - how can I make her move back?

**jcordett** · 11-15-2006, 02:07 PM

State is KS. My ex wife moved out of state with our two kids 5 months ago. I admit that I wasn't around like I should have been. I missed out on a huge part of their lives and no ones to blame but me. Now I realize I screwed up. We did go to court and I gave the ok for her to go but now I changed my mind. How can I make her move back? I only get to talk to the kids once a week and now they aren't coming home for Christmas so now I won't get to see them and I can't afford to go down there. I feel like she's doing it on purpose. She says I upset the kids and I admit I do yell but she makes me mad when she hangs up on me. And then I get madder. Shouldn't I be able to file and get custody based on the fact that she keeps the children from contacting me? It's not fair. They are my kids too. She won't tell me how she's supporting herself or nothing. I think I should know because its my kids and I'm worried about them.

**seniorjudge** · 11-15-2006, 02:09 PM

You need to hire a lawyer and file for a modification of the judgment in your lawsuit.

**jcordett** · 11-15-2006, 02:15 PM

That's all I have to do to make her move back then? Awesome! Thanks!

**Mr. Knowitall** · 11-15-2006, 03:03 PM

She's a grown-up and she can live where she pleases. The court has jurisdiction over where the children live.

seniorjudge appears to be telling you how you could, assuming you qualify, get a modification of the custody / contact order in relation to the children.

panther10758 · 11-15-2006, 03:21 PM

When did this become a Lost love forum?

**jcordett** · 11-15-2006, 03:59 PM

How do I qualify? I'm there dad aren't I? If I have concerns about their care then they should be returned to me. I don't think she's taking proper care of them. I did call CPS and the police and they found nothing but I don't care. I think there's something going on. And she can stay where she wants. I don't care about her. I just want my kids. I made a big mistake not being there but I realize my mistake now and I don't think it should be held against me.

**Mr. Knowitall** · 11-15-2006, 04:11 PM

You will likely have to demonstrate that circumstances have changed warranting a modification of the prior stipulated custody order, and that it is in the children's best interest to modify that order. You would be wise to get help from a lawyer.