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LoveMyBug7611
Ok, sorry for not clarifying. Our daughter has always been with us, I've raised her since the day she was born. When I did the stupid thing I did, my in laws, AND my husband decided I "didn't deserve to care for our daughter." They're holding my daughter over my head to get back at me I guess. Ever since the day it happened, I have sat at home, not gone anywhere, not done anything. Like I said, I slipped, I did and I admit it and in the process I did something very wrong and I'm very sorry for it. But you hit the nail on the head, my husband DOES want our daughter at his parents' b/c we weren't together long before we got pregnant and after we had our baby, all I heard was "Aw, let mama keep her tonight, we never know how much longer mama has and I want her to be close to my mama" (His mother is paralyzed from the waist down and is in a wheelchair) Over the past couple years it's become apparent to me that his mother had been nagging him and his brother about "giving her grandchildren" and my naïve self fell for the whole "I love you and want to have a family with you" BS and he basically got me pregnant to give his mom a grandchild. My husband and I are on the verge of calling it quits over all this, so he's intentionally trying to hurt me and he knows by saying I "don't deserve" to have my daughter with me he's hurting me, they all know that. Up until I slipped they never had a bad word to say about me as a mother, and that's b/c I AM a good mother, as best I can be, and I've NEVER put my child in harm's way, nor have I ever done anything mind altering since before she was born. So they're keeping my baby from me just to hurt me.
I'm not sure what the statutes are regarding my charges, and the court date coming up is for these charges, not guardianship. I actually left my husband and we went to a lawyer and had custody papers drawn up, but we decided to get back together and just leave the custody papers as is in case things didn't end up working out in the long run. Believe me, if I had anyone else in this world (not like I really have anyone here, just a roof over my head) me and my daughter would be LONG GONE. Although I already know when, not if, but WHEN I do leave with my daughter, I'll have CPS knocking on my door b/c that's their threat. His parents continue to accuse me of doing drugs, therefore not capable of taking care of my child, and they've said, "We know you can come get her, but if you leave with her we're calling CPS, we don't think you've learned your lesson yet so she's staying with us." And like I said, at first it was them keeping her until they served the warrant on me, now that the warrant's been served, now it's that I "don't deserve" MY baby! Today's my birthday, and here I sit, alone, heartbroken, about to lose my mind, scared to death I'm going to end up going to jail which only gives these crazy people more ammo against me, and I don't know what to do! Let me type out exactly what the warrant says the charges are:
Ok, this is in North Carolina and it says
Offenses
I Felony Larceny
II Poss Stolen Goods/Prop (F)
Offense Codes
I 2321
II 2341
Offense in Violation of G.S.
I 14-72 (A)
II 14-71.1
I guess there's not much I can really do about my daughter, there are times my husband acts mad about his parents keeping her like they are, but I don't understand how he doesn't realize the ONLY TWO people that have ANY SAY over our child is US. He'll go pick her up (for the 1-2 hrs a day I Do get to see her) and if I "piss him off" he'll say something like, "That's fine, let me just call mama to come on and pick her up," So he's doing it maliciously just to hurt me, control me, manipulate me, whatever. And where he first said he was going to help me pay for a lawyer, now he's saying he's not going to and he's going to revoke my bond and all this crazy stuff. He's a complete JERK when I stand up for myself (which is why I left him that first time and is why I'm going to leave him again once I can find a job and am able to support me and my daughter, the reason I came back is a looooooong story, but neither of us wanted to get back together, honestly I had nowhere to go and basically he's just letting me stay here, but totally and utterly hindering me from leaving so it feels as if I'm stuck, he's a control freak and if he doesn't have me to control then what does he have? Nothing ... that's why he let me stay here)
So those are the statutes I violated and if anyone can give me any advice at all I'd much appreciate it. Especially any advice in case I'm unable to pay for a lawyer and have to get a public defender *shudder* ... I've heard such horrible things about public defenders and how they could care less how it all turns out. This is the first time I've ever been in trouble and I'm terrified I'm going to end up having to spend time in jail ... please, any advice would be appreciated!