My question involves adoption law for the State of: Oklahoma
I am wanting to do a step parent adoption for my daughter so that no issues are caused later down the road. I do know who my daughter's father is, it was a one night stand. He knows about her, but refuses to be a father and also refuses to sign over his rights. However, since he resides in another state and is in the military I am doubtful that I will ever see him again. My husband and I have been best friends for years and began dating while I was pregnant. HE was there at my daughter's birth, and the nurse asked me who the father was and when I told her I did not know she said I could put him on the birth certificate but I did not do so at that time. WE got married when she was three weeks old and he signed an acknowledgement of paternity putting himself on her birth certificate, but I have been told this would not hold up in court should the birth father decide to show up. I do not want this man deciding to come in later and put my daughter's life in an uproar after being raised up with my husband as her father. My husband provides 100% of her support, housing, food and all. We have now been married 3 months.
How do I proceed from here? Can I have him adopt her with the biological father being unknown since he refuses to be involved or to sign over his rights? Or will I have to file abandonment? He is in boot camp right now and will be heading overseas soon so I do not even know how to contact him now but he told me from day 1 to give her away that he didn' want her.