[jackson99]

So husband and I argued the other night, ended up fighting over credit cards and one of them hit me in the lip. Smart guy as my husband is calls 911 cause I'm out of control. I told him that he would be arrested and not to call my lip was bleeding. So he was charged and I saw the police report and not everything I said is in there. He has court next week and some advocacy group will be there, as will I. I don't want them there I'm not a victim, how do I get them to not be there. They are very aware I don't want them there.
His lawyer wants me at the pretrial, I think to get it dismissed - can't prove domestic assault he called 911 not me, my lip healed by next day etc. What do I do? Any thoughts?

[jackson99]

any thoughts

[Clair Bonner]

So husband and I argued the other night, ended up fighting over credit cards and one of them hit me in the lip. Smart guy as my husband is calls 911 cause I'm out of control. I told him that he would be arrested and not to call my lip was bleeding. So he was charged and I saw the police report and not everything I said is in there. He has court next week and some advocacy group will be there, as will I. I don't want them there I'm not a victim, how do I get them to not be there. They are very aware I don't want them there.
His lawyer wants me at the pretrial, I think to get it dismissed - can't prove domestic assault he called 911 not me, my lip healed by next day etc. What do I do? Any thoughts?

The courtroom is for the Public. The advocacy group is part of the Public. The advocacy group is not necessarily there for you; they are there on behalf of all victims of crime, sometimes they are victims who are dead and cannot speak for themselves. You can't lock them out.

Also, it's not a matter of whether your lip healed. It's a matter that a woman was struck "in anger." That's what the "group" is for, and that's what they are fighting and advocating.

I don't think your husband's case will be thrown out. At the very least, he will be fined and placed on probation.

[jackson99]

if I'm the considered "victim" and I'm going to be there they should not be. I didn't lose my brain and I can speak for myself. Seems alot of waste of time and money, I am getting my attorney to get them out they don't need to be there.

[jackson99]

sorry meant to put this in as the prosecutor told me it will be hard to proceded since he called 911, domestic is based on fear and control, that's not here.

[Clair Bonner]

if I'm the considered "victim" and I'm going to be there they should not be. I didn't lose my brain and I can speak for myself. Seems alot of waste of time and money, I am getting my attorney to get them out they don't need to be there.

Obviously, you didn't read, or perhaps, understand what I wrote. The advocacy group IS NOT there for YOU, necessarily. They are there on behalf of all people, men and women, who are victims of crime.

They will be there to keep tabs on the judge, who is elected to the Bench, and who will be acutely aware of their presence because he is elected.

Like I said, you will have no say in whether they stay or go. They, like anyone else, have an absolute right to be there to see our Justice System at work.

[jackson99]

I certainly disagree and that's why I'm getting an attorney, they can be there but they have no business speaking. They haven't spoken to me or done testing etc, they have no place there and I will tell the judge that.

[Clair Bonner]

I certainly disagree and that's why I'm getting an attorney, they can be there but they have no business speaking. They haven't spoken to me or done testing etc, they have no place there and I will tell the judge that.

Have a nice, relaxing evening. You're in for a rude awakening . . .

[jackson99]

how am I in for a rude awakening? The prosecutor has said she can't go for domestic. Rude awakening with an advocacy group perhaps I guess the womens movemnt hit a road block with them, I don't need anyone advocating for me.

[jackson99]

Anyone else have any thoughts?