Dogmatique tried to give you an answer, and you did not like the answer.
If you want to know the answer to your question, then listen.
If you want reassurance, seek a support group, not a question-and-answer type forum.
And another thing, Dogmatique did ask you to clarify what your court order says and you didn't. Maybe if you had clarified, you could have been better assisted.
People aren't trying to hurt you, they're trying to be honest with you.